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June 2026 - May 2026 - April 2026 - March 2026 - February 2026 - January 2026 - December 2025 - November 2025 - October 2025 - September 2025 - From the Vault
Why Do Parents Do That?
6/22/2026
I first discovered Dr. Shefali when she appeared on Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday podcast back in 2014 and I was hooked! It was one of those moments when you feel like they are speaking directly to your heart. At the time my kids were teenagers and boy do I wish I would have learned her messaging when they were little. But the next best thing is to take information and appreciate them in the moment because there are always lessons to learn and ways to grow throughout life. I enjoyed reading The Awakened Family and The Conscious Parent and am thrilled to see that she has two new books out now. I hope you enjoy this podcast as she answers why do parents do that in the most honest and beautiful way.
Why Did I Lose Myself Along the Way?
6/19/2026
One of the questions I hear most often from parents, especially after the kids are grown, isn't actually about their children. It's about themselves.
"Why did I lose myself along the way?"
As I shared recently, I make a conscious effort not to live with regrets but to turn those wishes for do-overs into lessons. If there is one thing I would approach differently as a parent, it would be making my own growth just as important as the growth of the people I was raising.
Why do so many of us do that?
Because parenting often puts us into survival mode.
We aren't handed a manual when we bring our children home. We're learning as we go, managing responsibilities we've never had before, trying to keep up with the demands of everyday life. Just when we think we've figured something out, our children enter a new stage and we're faced with a whole new set of questions.
So we do what most people do. We rely on intuition. We pull from our own experiences. We focus on what needs our attention most urgently.
And more often than not, that's everyone else.
From a Behavior Language perspective, this can happen for different reasons. Some people feel responsible for everyone around them. Some naturally put relationships first. Some stay busy accomplishing and managing. Some simply adapt to whatever is needed in the moment.
The behavior may look different, but the result is often the same: we slowly move ourselves to the bottom of the list.
Then one day we find ourselves exhausted, depleted, and wondering why something we love so much feels so heavy.
The answer isn't that we don't love our families enough.
It's often that we've forgotten to keep growing ourselves along the way.
When we stop nurturing our own interests, relationships, dreams, health, or personal development, we're essentially asking ourselves to keep giving from a tank that never gets refilled.
Perhaps a better question isn't, "Why did I do that?"
Maybe it's, "What can I learn from it now?"
No matter what age or stage of life you're in, growth is still available to you. It doesn't have to be dramatic. It doesn't have to look like anyone else's journey. It may be a new hobby, a difficult conversation, a book, a class, a walk, a boundary, or simply making time to listen to yourself again.
Growth comes in many forms.
There is no right or wrong way.
And it's never too late to plant new seeds.
So if you need a reminder, or permission, here it is:
Nurturing yourself isn't taking away from the people you love.
It's helping ensure that what you give comes from a place of fullness rather than depletion.
Why Don’t They Ever Listen?
6/16/2026
You never listen to me! But maybe they are just listening through their own behavior language!!
Why Do They Do That? Maybe We Are Asking the Wrong Question?
6/14/2026
One of the questions I've been wrestling with lately is whether my message about Behavior Language can sometimes sound conflicting.
When people hear me talk about understanding others, they may think I'm saying we should automatically know what everyone needs.
When they hear me talk about honoring our own Personal Process, they may think I'm saying we should just do our own thing and not worry about anyone else.
Neither is what I'm trying to teach.
In fact, this month's theme of "Why Do They Do That?" sits right in the middle of that tension.
When people ask, "Why do they do that?" they're often really asking:
Why don't they think like me?
Why don't they care about what I care about?
Why don't they see this the way I do?
Why won't they just do what seems obvious?
The assumption behind those questions is often that if someone understands us, they'll naturally behave the way we want them to. But understanding and accommodation are not the same thing.
Behavior Language isn't about getting people to meet all of our needs. It's not about teaching people to read our minds. And it's certainly not about changing people into versions of ourselves. It's about making sense of behavior so we can stop turning differences into character flaws.
The reality is that two people can experience the exact same situation and walk away with completely different perspectives, priorities, emotions, and conclusions.
Not because one is right and the other is wrong.
But because they are filtering life through different Personal Processes.
That's why I believe one of the most powerful questions isn't actually:
"Why do they do that?" It's: "Why does that make sense to them?"
That small shift changes everything. It moves us from judgment to curiosity. From frustration to understanding. From assumptions to awareness.
And here's the important part: Understanding someone doesn't create an obligation.
If I understand that verbal affirmation is important to someone, it doesn't mean I'm suddenly responsible for meeting every emotional need they have.
If I understand that something comes naturally to me but not to someone else, it doesn't mean I should stop valuing it.
Understanding simply gives us better information. And better information allows us to make better choices.
So when someone asks me what we're supposed to do with the answer to "Why do they do that?" my answer is simple:
We use it to create more intentional relationships.
We communicate more clearly.
We set healthier boundaries.
We create more realistic standards.
We stop trying to force people to become us.
And we stop abandoning ourselves trying to become them.
Because the goal isn't to get everyone to think alike.
The goal is to understand one another well enough that our differences finally start to make sense.
6/14/2026
Easiest Job in the World
Recently I came across a video from a man who had been a stay-at-home parent for about six weeks. He confidently declared it was the easiest job in the world. He went on to describe his day, explain why he thought it wasn't difficult, and ultimately referred to stay-at-home moms as lazy, unappreciative, and unwilling to work.
What struck me wasn't his opinion.
It was the disdain behind it.
And even more concerning were the hundreds of comments that followed.
Many men seemed genuinely resentful toward women who expressed that being home with children can be challenging. Some went so far as to suggest that if a mother feels frustrated, overwhelmed, or exhausted, she must not love her children or isn't mentally equipped to be a parent.
As I read through the comments, I found myself asking:
Why would they do that?
When we don't understand another person's experience, it's easy to assume they are doing something wrong.
If something feels manageable to us, we may struggle to understand why it feels difficult for someone else. If we gain fulfillment from a certain role, we may question why another person doesn't. If we would handle a situation one way, we often assume everyone else should too.
But people aren't designed to think, process, relate, and experience life the same way.
That's what Behavior Language has taught me over and over again.
The issue isn't whether staying home with children is easy or difficult. The issue is what happens when we stop trying to understand one another. That's when respect turns into resentment. That's when assumptions replace curiosity. That's when we stop seeing the person and start defending our position.
Ironically, the things he listed, making meals, taking children places, managing the household, weren't what stood out to me. What stood out was what children absorb when parents no longer respect one another.
Sure, children benefit from pancakes and trips to the park.
But they benefit even more from growing up in a home where they witness mutual respect.
Where they see two adults who value each other's contributions, even when those contributions look different. Where disagreements don't become character attacks. Where effort isn't dismissed simply because it doesn't look the way someone else thinks it should.
The more I study behavior, the more convinced I become that understanding doesn't require agreement.
You don't have to want someone else's life. You don't have to make the same choices. You don't even have to fully relate to their experience.
But when we take the time to understand why someone sees, feels, or experiences something differently than we do, resentment loses much of its power.
And maybe that's one answer to this month's question.
Sometimes people do what they do because they genuinely cannot see beyond their own experience.
The opportunity is not to prove them wrong.
It's to understand what might be driving their perspective in the first place.
So much more to say on this but will reserve for the new Make It Make Sense Behavior Language Zoom Conversations beginning in July where we can discuss together live.
6/11/2026
Conversations
Oh how we can get annoyed with one other simply by the way we talk. And this annoyance isn’t because someone is communicating wrong, it’s because we expect others to converse using the same style we do. But it shows up different for each of us. Learning behavior language can help understand not just what someone else is saying but the natural way they say it.
6/11/2026
You Are Glowing
I wrote a Facebook post today that I thought I would expand on given it reminded me of this month’s theme: Why do they do that?
“It was pointed out to me today that I’m still glowing after almost a week back from meeting my amazing grandbaby, spending time with each of my kiddos, having brief visits with friends and hanging out with Troy’s family, not to mention being back in beautiful, sunny California breathing in the ocean air.
As sad as I was to leave and as hard as it is to live so far away I learned years ago that there are pros and cons to every situation, it’s just a matter of what you focus on. And when you live a life you don’t feel the need to escape from, vacations are bonus happiness.
If we don’t nurture our own light within first, it’s hard to shine brighter no matter how much joy others may bring us.”
Why do some people seem content almost anywhere while others struggle to find peace no matter what changes around them?
Part of the answer may be that some people spend more time nurturing their own light than chasing it somewhere else.
The older I get, the more I realize that every situation comes with both benefits and challenges. Living close to family has its advantages like frequent visits and more time together. But living far away also has its advantages too due to appreciating that precious time together a bit more because it is not take for granted.
The problem is that many of us spend our time focusing on the cons of our own situation while admiring the pros of someone else's.
We convince ourselves that happiness lives in the next vacation, the next accomplishment, the next move, the next relationship, or the next season of life.
But wherever we go, we bring ourselves with us.
That's why two people can experience the exact same blessing and walk away feeling completely different. One feels grateful and energized. The other immediately focuses on what is missing.
The difference isn't always the circumstance.
Often it's the condition of the light within them.
Nurturing your own light doesn't mean pretending everything is perfect. It means paying attention to your well-being, your perspective, your relationships, and the things that bring meaning to your life. It means creating a life that feels good on an ordinary Tuesday, not just during vacations and special occasions.
The people, places, and experiences we love can absolutely brighten our light.
Family can.
Friends can.
A beautiful sunset, a grandbaby, a vacation, or a meaningful conversation can.
But they cannot become the source of it.
And maybe that's the deeper answer to Why Do They Do That?
Because some people are looking for life to light them up, while others have learned how to keep their own light on.
6/10/2026
How Do You Vacation?
Yes, your behavior language plays a role in every aspect of life even when on vacation. Do you know how to translate yours so it doesn’t cause frustration?
The Art of Unstoppable Self-Belief
6/9/2026
As I listened to the podcast below, I found myself thinking about this month's theme: Why do they do that?
In this case, the question wasn't about someone's actions as much as it was their mindset.
Why do some people seem so comfortable trusting themselves? Why are they willing to pursue an idea, put themselves out there, start something new, speak up, or admit they want to make a difference and impact others? And why does that sometimes make the rest of us uncomfortable?
I think it's because we often interpret confidence through our own personal process.
If you tend to question yourself before making a decision, someone who moves forward with certainty may seem reckless. If you seek input from others, someone who trusts their own judgment might appear stubborn. If you've been taught not to stand out, someone who openly believes they have something valuable to contribute may come across as arrogant.
But what if none of those interpretations are true?
What if they simply know themselves?
One of the things I appreciate most about this conversation is that it highlights something I see over and over again in my work: people naturally operate differently. Some need reassurance. Some need consensus. Some need proof. And some possess a deep inner knowing that allows them to move forward before everyone else understands.
Neither approach is right or wrong.
They're simply different ways of navigating the world.
I also think many of us have received mixed messages about confidence. We encourage people to believe in themselves, follow their dreams, and make an impact. Yet when someone openly does those things, we sometimes question their motives.
Maybe that's why this topic stood out to me.
The more I learn about behavior, the more I realize that understanding ourselves is what allows us to stop judging others. When we know our own personal process, we become less threatened by people whose process looks different.
So as you listen to this episode, I invite you to notice your own reactions.
Do you admire this perspective?
Does it make you uncomfortable?
Do you relate to it?
Do you struggle to understand it?
There are no right answers.
But those reactions may tell you just as much about your behavior language as the podcast reveals about theirs.
And perhaps that's the real answer to this month's question:
Why do they do that?
Because they're being themselves.
The more interesting question is:
Why do we react the way we do when they are?
6/7/2026
Honoring Grandma Boundaries
Yes, if you’re a grandparent you’ve raised kids and you likely think you know the right way to do it. But different is not wrong. What’s wrong, because it strains the relationship, is not honoring the boundaries your child is creating in regard to having their turn to raise kids.
As with all the videos I create, I am not trying to tell people what to do. I am simply sharing perspective based on the work I do regarding translating behavior language to help strengthen relationships.
6/6/2026
Quotes, Perspective and Personal Process
This month, we are exploring the question:
"Why do they do that?"
Today, I want to ask a related question:
"Why do they say that?"
If you've spent any time on social media, you've probably noticed that quotes are often written with absolute certainty.
As if they are truth.
As if everyone should agree.
As if the answer is obvious.
Recently, I came across four quotes that caught my attention.
Not because they were right.
Not because they were wrong.
But because they reveal something important about behavior.
They reveal perspective.
One quote suggests that maturity comes from no longer feeling the need to explain yourself. Another emphasizes understanding over judgment. Another defines leadership by how much you develop others. Another claims that focusing on positivity creates a better life.
All of these ideas may resonate deeply with some people.
Others may read them and think, "That doesn't feel true for me."
And that's exactly the point.
The creator of each quote likely believes what they wrote. Their experiences support it. Their observations reinforce it. Their Personal Process makes it feel obvious.
But what if what feels obvious to one person isn't obvious to another?
What if the person who values understanding over judgment naturally leads with empathy?
What if the person who believes explanations are unnecessary has learned to trust their own convictions?
What if the person defining leadership through development naturally focuses on growth and potential?
What if the person promoting positivity genuinely experiences life through an optimistic lens?
None of these perspectives are necessarily wrong.
But none of them are necessarily universal either.
This is one of the reasons I find Behavior Language so fascinating.
When we don't understand Personal Process, we often mistake perspective for truth.
We assume that because something makes sense to us, it should make sense to everyone.
We assume that because something works for us, it should work for everyone.
We assume that because we see the world a certain way, others should see it that way too.
But they don't.
And that's okay.
The more I study behavior, the less interested I become in deciding who is right.
The more interested I become in understanding why a person sees the world the way they do.
Because behind every strong opinion, every inspirational quote, every piece of advice, and every conviction is a person whose experiences, strengths, tendencies, and Personal Process shaped that perspective.
So perhaps before agreeing or disagreeing, we can pause and ask:
Why do they see it that way?
And just as importantly:
Why do I see it differently?
Sometimes the most valuable insight isn't found in the quote itself.
It's found in understanding the person who wrote it and the person reading it.
How do you feel about each of these quotes? Can you guess why I chose them in particular?
6/4/2026
What Can I Do About It?
Once we begin asking, "Why do they do that?" and "Why do I do that?" the next question becomes:
What can we do about it?
The answer is not to fix, change, or convince people to be more like us.
The answer is to better understand ourselves.
When we become aware of our own Personal Process, how we naturally think, communicate, make decisions, build relationships, and move through life, we begin to realize that our way is simply one way, not THE WAY.
That awareness creates space.
Space to pause before reacting.
Space to become curious instead of critical.
Space to recognize that what feels obvious, important, or natural to us may not feel that way to someone else.
The more we understand our own Behavior Language, the easier it becomes to extend grace to others who speak a different one.
Instead of trying to get people to conform to our way of thinking, acting, and relating, we can honor the fact that they have a process of their own.
That doesn't mean we will always agree.
It doesn't mean every behavior is helpful.
And it doesn't mean we stop having boundaries.
It simply means we stop assuming that different is wrong.
When we understand ourselves, we become less threatened by differences.
We become more accepting.
More patient.
More respectful.
More willing to meet people where they are instead of demanding they meet us where we are.
In my experience, most relationship struggles are not caused by bad intentions. They are caused by misunderstanding.
And understanding begins with self-awareness.
So as you continue exploring the question, "Why do they do that?" don't forget to ask, "What can I learn about myself through this interaction?"
Because sometimes the greatest relationship shift doesn't happen when someone else changes.
It happens when we gain a deeper understanding of ourselves.
6/2/2026
Why Do They/I Do That?
That is the question I want us to sit with this month.
Not in a judgmental way.
Not in a frustrated way.
Not in a way that assumes someone is wrong and needs fixed.
Just a simple question:
Why do they do that?
And while we're at it...
Why do I do that?
Most of the tension we experience with other people comes from assuming they should think, communicate, prioritize, or respond the same way we would. When they don't, we create stories about them.
They're controlling.
They're lazy.
They're too emotional.
They don't care.
They're overthinking.
They're irresponsible.
But what if none of that is actually true?
What if they're simply speaking a different Behavior Language?
The same behavior that feels natural and helpful to one person can feel confusing or frustrating to another. We all have tendencies, preferences, blind spots, and strengths that influence how we move through the world.
When we don't understand those differences, we often personalize them.
When we do understand them, something shifts.
Curiosity replaces criticism.
Understanding replaces assumptions.
Respect replaces frustration.
So this month, I invite you to notice.
Notice the behaviors around you.
Notice the behaviors within you.
Instead of immediately deciding whether something is right or wrong, ask:
Why do they do that?
Why do I do that?
Because once behavior makes sense, people become easier to understand, including ourselves.
And understanding is often the first step toward getting along better.
Our Yearly Reflections Marriage Journal
6/1/2026
Given that June is the typical month for weddings and in honor of my son’s upcoming wedding at the end of the month, I am featuring my Marriage Journal found on Amazon as the book of the month.
When my oldest son was celebrating his one year anniversary I found myself wondering what they learned throughout that first year and what their intentions were going forward. So I created a journal as a gift and decided to share it with others.
"Yearly Reflections" is a unique marriage journal designed to help couples celebrate and strengthen their relationship with an annual tradition of reflection and connection. This simple yet beautifully crafted journal guides you through a yearly recap of your shared experiences, complete with space for cherished photos, heartfelt love letters, and thoughtful self-reflection. Each year, you'll capture the highs and lows, express your love in writing, and set intentions for the future, creating a meaningful keepsake that chronicles your journey together. Ideal for couples at any stage, this journal helps you nurture your bond by honoring your past, embracing the present, and envisioning your future with love and intention.
Perfect for that unique gift we are all searching for.