STREAM WITH HART
STREAM WITH HART
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A For You Page reimagined
Welcome to my alternative to social media: no politics, no pressure, no sales pitches.
Simply a place to scroll content intentionally designed with ease, good energy and everyday empowerment in mind.
I will be sharing my own thoughts, experiences and insights along with a variety of resources that I find of value.
I’d love for you to follow along and make this space part of your routine. Bookmark the page, sign up for occasional notifications so you don’t miss what’s new, and feel free to connect with me directly anytime. This stream is here to support you.
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Ebbing & Flowing
3/24/2026
It’s been a little quiet over here.
Not because nothing has been happening… but because a lot has been happening, just not in a way that looks like posting.
Behind the scenes, I’ve been deep in creation mode. Reworking both websites - Feel Empowered Every Day and Stanfield Manor Workspaces so they better reflect what’s actually happening in real life, not just what sounds good on paper. At the Manor, we’re preparing for a new tenant to move in, which means we’re officially becoming a full house… something that felt like a big vision not all that long ago.
There’s also something new taking shape on the online side, membership spaces to expand the SMW Collective and offer continued support for learning your behavior language that I’m really excited about. Still letting those come together in a way that feels right before sharing more.
And in the background, my new book, Your Behavior Language: Understanding the Way You Naturally Think, Act and Relate, is in its final stages before publication on Amazon. That one feels big. It’s something I’ve been building toward for a while, and it’s exciting to see it finally coming together.
All of it has required a different kind of energy. Less visible, more focused. Less sharing, more building.
It’s a rhythm I’ve come to recognize in myself.
There are seasons where I’m outward, connecting, talking, posting, engaging. And then there are seasons where I pull inward, refining, creating, getting things into place. For a while, I used to think I needed to stay consistent in one mode to “do it right.”
But that’s not actually how I work.
When I look at my own patterns, it makes sense. I move when something feels ready. I share when there’s something real to say. And when I don’t, it’s usually because something is still forming.
I’ve started to trust that more instead of fighting it.
It makes me wonder how this shows up for you.
Are you someone who moves in steady, consistent output… or do you find yourself ebbing and flowing between building and sharing?
Do you feel pressure to show up a certain way, even when it doesn’t match how you naturally operate?
I’m learning there’s room for both.
And sometimes, the quiet seasons are the ones that change the most.
2 Mantras I Live By
3/10/2026
What mantras do you live by to help get you through life’s major changes?
Essential Oil of the Week
3/9/2026
Copaiba is one of those oils that doesn’t always get the spotlight, but the people who know it rarely want to be without it. It’s gentle, subtle, and incredibly supportive in ways that don’t always announce themselves loudly.
When I first started using oils, I gravitated toward the ones with recognizable scents or very obvious purposes. Copaiba didn’t immediately stand out to me. It doesn’t have a bold aroma like some oils do, it’s soft, slightly woody, and easy to overlook.
But over time, I began to appreciate it for a different reason.
Copaiba has a calming, soothing quality that seems to work beneath the surface. It’s one of those oils I reach for when my body feels tense, when my nervous system needs a little extra support, or when I simply want to create a sense of steadiness.
I like to add a drop to my moisturizer, rub a little on areas that feel tight or achy, or diffuse it in the evening when I want the house to feel grounded and calm.
It’s not flashy.
It’s not overpowering.
But sometimes the most supportive things in life are the ones working quietly in the background, helping everything else function just a little bit better.
If you are one who reaches for CBD to ease your pain or relax your mind as well as muscles, you might just find even more support with the use of Copaiba in either oil form or by simply taking one of doTERRA’s pre-made softgels.
SIP (Self Intelligence Principle) Card of the Week
3/9/2026
“Let your mind dance with possibility, for every idea is a spark that can ignite change.”
Some people experience the world through ideas.
Their mind is constantly making connections, noticing patterns, imagining alternatives, and asking what if. A conversation, a problem, a random observation almost anything can turn into a spark that leads to a new thought or possibility.
For people who think this way, ideas are energizing. They aren’t always meant to be acted on immediately. Sometimes the joy simply comes from exploring the possibility itself and seeing where the mind can go with it.
Over the years I’ve noticed that when someone has a lot of this kind of thinking in their personal process, it can be misunderstood. Others may see them as scattered or jumping from thing to thing, when in reality their mind is doing exactly what it was designed to do, exploring possibilities and creating connections that others might not see.
And interestingly, many of the ideas that eventually move things forward, in businesses, families, and even everyday life, often start with someone who was simply willing to let their mind dance with possibility.
Navigating Major Changes
3/5/2026
Like many of you, midlife greeted me with some major changes that completely derailed my life. This is something that helped me through. If you are still trying to find your way, maybe this will help you too?
Six Years Later
3/4/2026
I can’t believe it has already been six years since I was working as an instructional aide at a middle school in San Diego. I remember looking around at the kids and feeling heartbroken by how much anxiety they were carrying at such a young age. Around that same time, I was in the middle of my own season of trying to understand myself better, reading, studying, and soaking up anything that helped me make sense of life and why we all seem to struggle in similar ways.
Every once in a while I would share little pieces of what I was learning with the students. Nothing formal, just conversations. But I started noticing something. They were hungry for it. They wanted guidance that actually helped them make sense of themselves and the world around them.
So I decided to start an after-school club and planned to call it Feel Empowered Every Day.
I was just about ready to pitch the idea to the principal when the pandemic hit and the school shut down for the rest of the year.
Like many things during that time, the plan changed.
Instead of doing it inside the school, I started helping kids outside of school. And what became obvious very quickly was that teenagers weren’t the only ones who needed these conversations. Adults were just as curious about understanding themselves and improving their relationships.
Truthfully, I was too.
So I took a leap I never expected to take. I quit my job at the school and stepped into something completely new as a solopreneur.
Not long after that, we moved to a small town in Ohio where I didn’t know a single person. Once again it meant starting from scratch, introducing this idea of Feel Empowered Every Day to an entirely new community.
Thankfully, that community welcomed me.
What I didn’t fully anticipate was everything that comes along with starting a business. Suddenly I was learning about logos, websites, marketing, social media, scheduling apps, payment processors, bookkeeping, video recording, and content creation… none of which I had experience with and, if I’m being honest, none of which I was particularly interested in doing.
But it’s part of the process.
Over the past six years I’ve tried a lot of things. Some worked, some didn’t. The business itself has evolved many times, but the heart of the work has always stayed the same.
Today the work looks different than it did in the beginning. I still work with teenagers, but now also with adults navigating different stages of life, couples wanting stronger relationships, and leadership teams inside organizations. I even get to work with entrepreneurs who are stepping into their own version of the leap I once took.
And after experimenting with all the platforms and marketing advice out there, I’ve found myself enjoying something simple—sharing my thoughts and observations on Stream with Hart, my own little corner of the internet where I can write freely without worrying about algorithms or trying to keep up with the latest trends.
It took me six years, but I finally feel like I’ve found my voice in the words on my website too, something that felt surprisingly difficult.
When I look back, none of this is exactly what I planned. But in many ways it’s better than what I could have planned.
I’m incredibly grateful to everyone who has been part of the journey along the way.
And if there’s something tugging at your heart, an idea, a curiosity, a direction you can’t quite explain, I’ve learned it might be worth exploring. You really never know where it might lead.
Try Journaling to Stop Overthinking
3/3/2026
Amy Porterfield and guest Laura L Rubin discuss the science back power of writing out your thoughts to help clear your mind. Not sure where to start? Laura is an expert in the journaling field and shares some helpful tips to get you started. If you are already an avid “journaler”, what is your favorite way of going about it?
Not Understanding or Just Not Accepting?
3/2/2026
There’s a subtle shift I’ve been noticing lately.
So much of the tension in relationships gets labeled as “misunderstanding.”
We say things like:
“He just doesn’t get me.”
“She doesn’t understand where I’m coming from.”
“We’re speaking different languages.”
And sometimes that’s true.
But sometimes? It’s not misunderstanding at all. Sometimes we understand perfectly.
We see the behavior clearly.
We know why they do it.
We can even explain their reasoning better than they can.
We just don’t like it. And that’s a different layer entirely.
I watch couples who fully understand each other’s patterns yet still feel irritated.
Parents who know exactly why their teenager responds the way they do yet still feel triggered.
Co-workers who can map out one another’s tendencies yet still feel resistance rising.
It isn’t confusion.
It’s preference colliding with reality.
We all have behaviors that feel natural to us. Certain ways of talking, deciding, processing, resting, planning, leading, loving. And when someone else moves through life differently, especially in ways that rub against our own rhythm, something in us tightens.
The instinct is often:
“If they would just adjust…”
“If they could soften that…”
“If they would stop doing it that way…”
And we put subtle (or not-so-subtle) energy toward reshaping them.
What I’ve observed, though, is that real peace doesn’t come from successfully sanding down someone else’s edges. It comes from a deeper place.
There’s a point where understanding isn’t enough.
Where tolerance isn’t enough.
Where even compromise isn’t enough.
There’s a quieter, more honest question underneath:
Can I allow this to be true about them without needing it to be different?
That’s where something shifts.
Acceptance doesn’t mean agreement.
Embracement doesn’t mean you suddenly adore every habit.
It means you stop fighting what is.
You begin to see the behavior not as a personal attack or a flaw that needs correcting, but as an expression of how that person moves through the world.
And when that happens, the energy changes.
The edge softens.
The constant internal commentary quiets.
The relationship breathes a little easier.
I’ve noticed that the next level of connection isn’t found in figuring each other out. It’s found in releasing the need to edit each other.
There’s something unexpectedly freeing about saying, internally,
“That’s how they are.”
And letting that be enough.
SIP (Self Intelligence Principle) Card of the Week
3/2/2026
“We all have our own personal process which is unlike anyone else.
We are all meant to go about life our own way.”
One of the things I notice most in couples, families, teams, friendships is how often we assume other people should approach life the way we do.
We don’t even mean to.
We just naturally believe our way is… normal.
The way we think something through.
The pace we move.
How much we talk (or don’t).
Whether we need time alone or process out loud.
How we make decisions.
How we handle stress.
How we recharge.
It feels obvious to us.
Until we realize it’s not obvious to someone else.
That’s where I began using the phrase personal process.
Your personal process is the pattern of behaviors you naturally rely on to move through life. It’s not your personality label. It’s not a box. It’s not a diagnosis.
It’s the combination of tendencies that shape how you:
gather information
make sense of what’s happening
respond under pressure
connect with others
solve problems
move ideas into action
I often use the behavioral themes revealed through CliftonStrengths as a starting point not as titles to wear, but as language to observe patterns.
Some people naturally think before they speak.
Some speak to discover what they think.
Some move quickly and adjust as they go.
Some need time to consider every angle.
Some are energized by people.
Some are restored by space.
None of it is right or wrong. It’s simply process.
When we don’t understand our own process, we tend to judge ourselves.
When we don’t understand someone else’s process, we tend to judge them.
But when we start recognizing that we each operate from a unique internal rhythm, something shifts.
We stop trying to replicate someone else’s way.
We stop expecting others to mirror ours.
We begin to work with our design instead of against it.
This SIP is a reminder:
You are not meant to go about life the way someone else does.
Your way of thinking, responding, creating, resting, leading, loving is yours.
The goal isn’t to change your process but to understand it well enough to use it intentionally.
That’s where confidence grows.
That’s where respect deepens.
That’s where getting along with yourself and others becomes easier.
Essential Oil of the Week
3/2/2026
Vetiver is one of those oils that doesn’t try to impress you.
It doesn’t float into the room like lavender.
It doesn’t sparkle like citrus.
It sits.
Deep. Earthy. Rooted.
If you’ve ever smelled it, you know it’s rich, grounding, almost smoky.
And I’ll be honest… I hated it when I first got it.
I remember opening the bottle, taking a whiff, and thinking, “Nope. Not for me.” It felt too heavy. Too strong. Too much.
But something interesting happened over time.
The more I understood what it was meant to support, the more I paid attention to my own nervous system, the more I reached for it.
Now? I won’t go without it.
Especially in this season of my life.
I’m in what I would call a grounding season. Less pushing. Less scattering. More anchoring. More intentional focus. And Vetiver has quietly become one of my go-to supports.
A drop on the bottoms of my feet before bed.
A little on the back of my neck when my system feels overstimulated.
Diffused when my mind is running in ten directions and I need to sit down and actually finish something.
Not only does it help me sleep, it supports my nervous system while doing so. I don’t just fall asleep, I feel settled even with the crazy dreams it often brings.
And during the day, when my ideas are flying and my brain wants to chase every possibility (which it loves to do), Vetiver helps me focus and channel that energy into something productive instead of scattered.
Vetiver comes from the roots of a grass. Not the flower. Not the leaf. The root. It grows downward, anchoring into the soil before anything visible rises above ground.
There’s something about that imagery that resonates with me.
Strength doesn’t always look like momentum.
Sometimes it looks like depth.
What I’ve learned both with oils and in my work is that what we resist at first sometimes becomes exactly what we need.
Growth can feel unfamiliar.
Grounding can feel heavy before it feels steady.
If this season feels like a lot, or if your mind feels like it’s running the show, you might consider trying something that roots you instead of revs you up.
Sometimes the answer isn’t more effort.
It’s deeper anchoring.
The Four Agreements
3/1/2026
There are some books that don’t just give you information.
They hand you a mirror.
This month’s book is The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.
It’s simple. Almost deceptively simple.
Be impeccable with your word.
Don’t take anything personally.
Don’t make assumptions.
Always do your best.
That’s it.
And yet… how much friction in our everyday lives comes from breaking one of those without even realizing it?
I notice in my work that most tension in relationships at home or at work isn’t because people are bad or wrong.
It’s because:
Someone said something quickly and carelessly.
Someone took something personally that wasn’t meant that way.
Someone filled in the blanks instead of asking a question.
Someone judged themselves (or others) for not being perfect instead of simply doing their best in that moment.
What I appreciate about this book is that it doesn’t try to fix other people.
It quietly brings you back to yourself.
That’s the heart of what I do as well.
When we look at how you naturally think, communicate, process, and respond, your patterns become clearer. And when patterns are clear, agreements like these stop feeling like rules and start feeling like alignment.
For example:
“Don’t take anything personally” becomes easier when you understand that other people are operating from their own internal lens.
“Don’t make assumptions” becomes natural when you recognize how your mind tends to fill in gaps.
“Be impeccable with your word” becomes less about perfection and more about congruence.
“Always do your best” softens when you realize your best shifts depending on capacity, energy, and season.
What I see over and over again is this:
When people understand their own operating style, they extend more grace.
When they extend more grace, relationships steady.
When relationships steady, life feels lighter.
The Four Agreements aren’t complicated.
But living them consistently requires awareness.
And awareness is where everything changes.
If you’ve read it before, revisit it with fresh eyes.
If you haven’t, it’s a quick read that lingers in the best way.
Sometimes growth isn’t about adding more.
It’s about returning to foundational truths and actually practicing them.