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Welcome to my alternative to social media: no politics, no pressure, no sales pitches.
Simply a place to scroll content intentionally designed with ease, good energy and everyday empowerment in mind.
I will be sharing my own thoughts, experiences and insights along with a variety of resources that I find of value.
I’d love for you to follow along and make this space part of your routine. Bookmark the page, sign up for occasional notifications so you don’t miss what’s new, and feel free to connect with me directly anytime. This stream is here to support you.
October 2025 - September 2025 - From the Vault
Sometimes what looks like control is actually care that’s gone unchecked. In this stream video, I share how the Responsibility strength can slip into micromanaging, not because of shortcomings, but because of the deep need to follow through and make sure things are done “right.” Learning to recognize that taking over for others instead of empowering them is not personal, it is just part of their process and self intelligence can help you navigate it through understanding.
Where does the Responsibility strength fall for you? Are you able to recognize when you start to drift outside your lane?
How to Get Along Better with a Micromanager
10/31/2025
The Moment You Stop Trying To Be Seen and Start Seeing Yourself, Everything Changes
10/31/2025
For so long, I exhausted myself trying to explain who I was hoping to be understood, to prove I wasn’t the version of me others decided I should be.
I wanted to be seen for who I truly was, not through someone else’s filter, assumptions or unmet expectations. So I tried harder. I adjusted, I explained, I over-shared, I over-performed all in the name of being understood.
And one day, it hit me…
I was begging to be seen by people who didn’t have the capacity or maybe even the desire to truly see me.
That realization changed everything.
I stopped asking, “Why can’t they see me?”
and started asking, “How clearly do I even see myself?”
That’s when peace found its way in.
Because peace doesn’t come from being understood by others.
It comes from understanding yourself.
From knowing who you are, how you do things best, what you value, and what you will no longer explain away or minimize just to keep the peace.
When we stop seeking understanding from the outside and start building it from within, we begin to live from a place of authenticity, not approval.
And that’s when life starts to feel aligned, not exhausting.
The more clearly you see yourself, the more naturally you begin to get along better, not just with others, but with life itself. If you’re ready to strengthen that inner relationship and bring more peace and clarity to your everyday interactions, start by seeing you first. That’s where empowerment truly begins.
Where in your life are you still trying to be understood, and what might change if you shifted that energy toward understanding yourself instead?
We tend to focus on and take notice of other people’s flags, both red and green. But have you ever stopped to focus on and take notice of your own? In this video I dive into what that might look like, how to know what they are and how my strengths now serve as those tangible flags in my own life. Which ones are harder to determine for yourself, red or green?
Red Flags & Green Flags - Can you Spot Your Own?
10/30/2025
I am sharing this podcast episode here because whether you are growing a business or growing yourself (or both), the power of being surrounded by people who share information, experiences and value is unmatched by any other. We tend to think growth comes from self-work and is something to go at alone, but nothing could be further from the truth. We are meant for community, especially one filled with honesty, encouragement and support.
I especially related to the line “Readiness is a decision, not a feeling.” I will preface, she is referring to high-level, high-costs groups, but I am here to tell you, you don’t need to spend a fortune to find a group that works for you and if you are struggling to, then create your own.
That is exactly what I did with the SMW Collective. I was not getting what I wanted or needed out of the co-working space I opened while simultaneously was struggling with the isolation of building my own consulting practice. So I combined problems and came up with a joint resolution. I reached out to some fellow solopreneurs in the mentorship and wellness industry, offering not only space to hold seminars, meetings and workshops but do so with a spirit of collaboration. We now have a monthly mastermind meeting that we all look forward to.
Whether we are a fit for you or not, I highly encourage you to find or create the room that supports your growth with the people who can help get you where you want to be.
The Amy Porterfield Show - Mastermind Moves
10/29/2025
Your Way or My Way - How often do you feel stuck between the two?
10/28/2025
I feel like most of us know who we are, what path feels right, what we believe in, what excites us and what we don’t want any part of. However, we constantly find ourselves facing a fork in the road of following our own way, or going down the road of trying to live up to expectations. Expectations placed on us from family, friends, in the workplace, society in general or even ourselves when we get caught up in the “shoulds” and “supposed to’s” of life.
And while we might know which road feels right, choosing it isn’t always easy.
Following your own way can come with friction, not because you’re wrong, but because authenticity often disrupts the comfort of expectation. Sometimes standing firm in who you are means standing apart from the people or systems you’ve always tried to stay connected to.
For me, that’s where the real struggle used to live, not in figuring out who I was, but in deciding how much of myself I was willing to risk showing when it wasn’t well received. I wasn’t a people-pleaser, and I wasn’t afraid of hard conversations, but constantly having to defend who I was left me exhausted.
I’d find myself second-guessing if what I was fighting for, my voice, my peace, my truth, was really worth the fallout. Or if life might just be easier if I went along with what others wanted of me. But every time I tried to shrink myself to fit, I felt a quiet resentment build, toward myself for trading authenticity for acceptance and toward others for placing their expectations on me.
Over time, I realized that neither path, rebellion or compliance, brought peace. The real calm came when I stopped seeing it as a choice between “my way” and “their way,” and instead started following my own compass.
That’s what I now call my Personal Process, learning to move through life in a way that honors who I am, while also understanding how others operate. It’s not about proving anything or following (or not following) anyone. It’s about aligning.
The more I trusted that inner direction, the less energy I spent explaining, defending, or overthinking. I could simply be and that’s where contentment lives.
Because when we start walking in alignment with who we are, the world doesn’t necessarily get quieter, but we do. We stop questioning our worth and start navigating from a place of calm confidence. And that’s when life finally starts to feel like ours.
Imagine if following your own path could actually help you get along better with yourself and the people who matter most. Because when you honor yourself by feeling confident in your own way, it opens your perspective to have grace for other people’s way and expectations get left behind. After many years of wishing there was an easier way to navigate, I no longer feel as though I am constantly standing at a fork in the road. When we understand our own and one another’s personal process, we begin to walk a mutual path of respect and grace leading to healthier more connected relationships in all areas of life.
SIP (Self Intelligence Principle) Card of the Week
10/27/2025
Peace and contentment come from honoring your authentic self and honoring others for their authentic selves as well.
We often think peace comes from fixing what’s wrong around us, finding the right routine, the right words, or the right way to handle others. But peace doesn’t start outside of us. It begins when we stop fighting with who we are inside.
When you honor your authentic self, your needs, preferences, quirks, and rhythms, you stop forcing yourself into molds that don’t fit. You start showing up in a way that feels aligned and honest. And when you extend that same grace to others, something beautiful happens, understanding replaces judgment, and connection replaces comparison.
It doesn’t mean we’ll always agree or see things the same way. It simply means we can coexist with mutual respect, without needing to make someone wrong for being different.
Peace isn’t passive. It’s an active choice to allow everyone, including yourself, to simply be.
This week’s reflection:
Where in your life do you find yourself resisting someone’s authentic way of being, including your own? What might shift if, instead of trying to change it, you simply allowed it?
Sharing a story as an example to this message.
Essential Oil of the Week
10/27/2025
Breaking news!! Spearmint is not just for gum!
How many of you would think to turn to spearmint to aid in digestion, congestion, depression or menstruation? And those are just a few health benefits this powerful oil can offer. I never would have either. But now that I know, I will never be without this on my shelf.
There are 3 main ways to use spearmint depending on what you are using it for:
Diffuse - add a couple drops on it’s own or with a citrus oil for a clean, fresh scent that uplifts your mood, aids in focus and opens your airways
Topical - apply 1-2 drops diluted or neat to areas of concern or to the bottom of feet to get into the blood stream and let it’s chemical constituents go to work spreading messages to your cells
Internally - create an essential oil tea with a couple drops of spearmint in warm water. Use on it’s own or blend with lemon, tangerine or bergamot for added benefits and taste for a calming to your systems yet invigorating to your senses and boosts metabolism for a bonus effect.
If you have any questions on how to use spearmint or would like to share your favorite way, please let me know.
10/26/2025
Discovering TCM with the help of ChatGPT
(Traditional Chinese Medicine)
First off, let’s talk AI for a moment. Anyone else a fan of ChatGPT? I often get overwhelmed when wanting to learn about or do something new especially with so much information coming at us from all directions. So to streamline my thoughts, I often use it as a guide to get my mind focused and on track to where I want to be going. I have found that the more detailed the prompt, the more customized the response.
Here, I am sharing with you my latest empowerment related inquiry in hopes that you may find it of value as well. Of course, take the information and customize it to an approach that best suits you. * I also highly suggest following Janus_natureheals on YouTube for more information, exercises and tips.
My prompt:
I have been incorporating tai chi into my recovery and am intrigued by TCM and the idea of dampness. Can you help me come up with a plan to benefit from these teachings but apply them to an american lifestyle because I don't have the palate to switch my diet to one made up of chinese dishes especially given I don't eat seafood. Bonus points for use of doTERRA products if applicable
ChatGPT said:
I love this direction for you, Elle — it fits beautifully with your holistic and “feel empowered every day” way of integrating ancient wisdom into modern living. Let’s design a TCM-inspired, American-adapted wellness plan that respects your preferences (no seafood, familiar foods, use of doTERRA products, and aligned with your recovery).
🌿 Foundation: Translating TCM for Modern Western Life
Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) is about balance and flow — of Qi (energy), Blood, and Body Fluids — all influenced by your environment, emotions, diet, and daily rhythm. “Dampness” in TCM refers to sluggishness, heaviness, mucus, inflammation, bloating, or fatigue that result when the body can’t properly transform and transport fluids.
Your goal: Lighten, dry, and move the dampness — physically and energetically — while keeping your approach sustainable and enjoyable.
🧘♀️ 1. Movement Plan: “Move the Qi, Dry the Damp”
Tai Chi is the perfect start. Add complementary elements that promote circulation and warmth:
Morning flow (10–15 min): Tai Chi or Qigong with deep belly breathing to awaken Spleen/Stomach Qi (the organs most affected by dampness).
Midday: Gentle walk, especially after meals to aid digestion.
Evening: Yin yoga or legs-up-the-wall to calm and support liver detox and lymphatic flow.
💧 Bonus doTERRA support:
Diffuse Lemon + Ginger + Cypress in the morning to promote energy and circulation.
Apply AromaTouch oil blend to lower legs post-practice to stimulate lymph flow and muscle recovery.
🥦 2. Nutrition: TCM Principles, American Ingredients
The Spleen loves warmth, dryness, and regular meals. Avoid excess cold, raw, or greasy foods. Think “comforting but clean.”
Foods to Embrace
Cooked vegetables: Sweet potatoes, carrots, squash, beets, spinach, kale.
Grains: Brown rice, quinoa, millet, oats.
Proteins: Chicken, turkey, eggs, lentils, beans (well cooked), nuts/seeds.
Herbs/Spices: Ginger, cinnamon, clove, garlic, fennel, turmeric.
Fruits (moderation): Apples, pears, cherries, blueberries — lightly warmed or stewed.
Foods to Reduce
Dairy (mucus-forming)
Sugar and refined flour
Fried and heavy foods
Excess iced drinks and smoothies
Wheat if bloating or heaviness occurs
💧 Bonus doTERRA support:
Add 1 drop Lemon or Grapefruit oil to warm water in the morning to support metabolism and fluid movement.
Use DigestZen blend (1 drop in water or capsule) after heavier meals to aid transformation and reduce bloating.
☀️ 3. Lifestyle Rhythm: Support the Spleen + Dry the Damp
Time of Day FocusRitual
Morning (7–9am) Activate digestion Warm lemon water, gentle movement, light breakfast with protein
Midday (11am–1pm) Energize Avoid overeating, short walk after lunch
Afternoon (3–5pm) Recenter Cup of ginger or cinnamon tea, 5 min breath work
Evening (7–9pm) Wind down Warm bath with doTERRA Adaptive or Balance blend, journal reflection
💧 Hydration tip: Sip warm water with a pinch of Himalayan salt or a drop of Lemon EO throughout the day rather than gulping cold water.
🌬️ 4. Emotional & Environmental Dampness
Dampness isn’t just physical — it can come from emotional stagnation or clutter.
Declutter your space weekly — open windows, light a citrus or purifying blend (Lemon, Tea Tree, Purify).
Emotional flow: Journaling or short “Stream with Hart” reflections on what feels heavy or unresolved.
Affirmation: “I release what weighs me down. My body and mind flow freely.”
💧 doTERRA support:
Diffuse Citrus Bliss when clearing space or journaling to lift mood and lighten emotional dampness.
Apply Zendocrine blend over the liver area to support detox and clarity.
🌙 5. Recovery Support (Holistic + Gentle Detox)
As your body heals, support circulation and lymphatic flow without stress:
Dry brushing 2–3x weekly before shower.
Epsom salt baths with Grapefruit + Cypress + AromaTouch oils.
Red light therapy and gentle abdominal massage with doTERRA MetaPWR or DigestZen Touch.
Life is the most difficult exam. Many people fail because they try to copy others, not realizing that everyone has a different question paper.
10/23/2025
Whatever metaphor you prefer, a test, a game (as in the video post from yesterday), a dance, or a journey, the point is the same - life isn’t meant to be copied.
We each came here with our own “question paper,” our own unique set of experiences, strengths, and lessons to work through. Yet it’s so easy to look around and measure ourselves against others, to think we’re behind, off track, or somehow missing the mark because our answers don’t match theirs.
But here’s the truth, there’s no universal answer key. The only way to truly “pass” this exam, or win this game, is to learn your own strategy. To pay attention to what actually works for you, what feels aligned, what brings peace instead of pressure.
When you stop trying to follow someone else’s rules and start honoring your own rhythm, everything shifts. Life becomes less about proving and more about playing. You start learning from your experiences rather than judging them. You move from confusion to clarity, and from comparison to confidence.
Because no matter how you look at it, whether you see life as a test, a game, or an ever-unfolding classroom, the magic happens when you show up as yourself. That’s when you stop trying to get it “right” and start truly living it.
SIP (Self Intelligence Principle) Card of the Week
10/20/2025
Every single interaction in life - with people, things and ideas is a relationship and all of those external relationships are based on the one you have with yourself
It’s so much easier to look outward and think, “If only this person understood me better,” or “If only my job paid more,” or “If only my partner, my health, or time would just cooperate.”
But the truth is, every one of those experiences is being filtered through the relationship you have with yourself.
When you don’t trust your own decisions, you start questioning everyone else’s motives.
When you don’t feel seen or valued within, you start searching for validation in places that can’t actually fill that void.
When you don’t honor your own needs, you end up over-giving, over-compensating, or over-explaining and resentment quietly builds.
Focusing on yourself isn’t selfish. It’s foundational.
It’s how you create a steady ground to stand on so that when life shifts, and it will, you don’t lose your balance every time something or someone else does.
When you nurture your relationship with yourself, everything else naturally starts to realign.
Your communication softens.
Your boundaries strengthen.
Your choices become clearer.
And you start to notice that the world begins to mirror back the same level of respect and care that you’re finally giving to yourself.
Because the truth is, every single relationship you have - with people, with opportunities, with the way you move through life begins and ends with the one you have within.
Essential Oil of the Week
10/20/2025
As the weather begins to cool off, you will want your bottle of Clove near by to keep you warm.
How can essential oil keep you warm you ask? By increasing your circulation. Simply apply a diluted drop to the bottom of your feet to get your blood flowing.
Clove also is a key player in keeping your immune system alerted and ready to take action when fighting those weather changing icks that try to keep you down. I actually place a drop on my toothbrush with my OnGuard toothpaste not only for dental hygiene and health but to get in my bloodstream for a preventive immune system boost.
Do you have thyroid issues that cause a slow metabolism? Try Clove.
Do you have nerve inflammation, muscle degeneration or osteoporosis? Try Clove.
Can’t get rid of athlete’s foot? Try Clove.
Clove is what is know as a hot oil so ALWAYS be sure to dilute it with a carrier oil before applying to your skin! When in doubt on where to apply, massage it into the bottom of your feet.
Enjoy the Fall season even more by diffusing Clove with Wild Orange for a festive scent that keeps everyone healthy and happy.
You just don’t get it. You feel like you connect and have fun or work well together but you’re left feeling a little left out. It’s like they have an exclusive club that you don’t know how to be a member of. Trust me when I say, it’s not personal, it’s their capacity and process in developing relationships. I can help you shift your perspective to honor them and yourself with respect and grace as you spend time together.
How to Get Along Better with Someone Who Has Their Guard UP
10/19/2025
10/16/2025
Why I Avoided Self-Awareness (and What I Found When I Stopped)
For many years, like the idea of empowerment, the concept of self-awareness was just not something I gave much thought to, let alone put any energy into. If you had asked me back then, I’m sure I would have said I was self-aware. I mean, I knew what I liked and didn’t like, what I enjoyed doing and what I didn’t.
Funny enough, Harvard Business Review did a study showing that 90% of people think they’re self-aware, but only 10–15% actually are. And I would have absolutely been one of those statistics.
Looking back, I guess I never gave it much thought because I was simply living life day by day. Handling what needed to be done around the house, spending time with and taking care of my kids, doing what I thought I was supposed to for myself. For the most part, I enjoyed life. Of course, there were plenty of challenges, but that’s just part of it, right? We all have them.
I stayed focused on the here and now as it came, learning about parenting, marriage, household duties, finding new recipes, taking on craft projects, and maintaining life as we knew it.
I didn’t look much deeper.
Deeper was scary.
Deeper led to discontentment.
Deeper opened the door to the idea of more and that was a place I didn’t have the courage or support to go knocking.
I had a good life.
I was living surface, and surface felt safe.
What I’ve come to learn later in life is that self-awareness isn’t something to hide from or ignore. It isn’t about criticism or analyzing yourself to pieces. It’s simply learning to listen, not just to the noise around you, not even just to the words you say, but to the quiet truths underneath.
It’s noticing when something feels off, even if you can’t yet name why.
It’s catching yourself mid-reaction and asking, “What’s really bothering me here?”
It’s realizing that the little things that irritate you, drain you, or light you up are actually messages like tiny clues about who you are and what matters most.
Self-awareness isn’t about finding what is “wrong” about yourself and thinking you need to change who you are; it just invites you to pay attention.
To slow down long enough to notice what your emotions are trying to tell you.
To recognize when you’re shrinking to stay comfortable or saying “yes” when your whole body is whispering “no.”
When I finally started doing that, I was surprised by what I heard.
Sometimes it was uncomfortable, coming to terms with truths I’d rather not face.
Other times it was surprisingly kind, a gentle reminder that I was allowed to want more, to grow, to change.
I didn’t realize how much I was missing until I finally slowed down enough to hear myself.
Because beneath the surface, beyond all the roles and routines was someone I actually wanted to know.
Someone with opinions that weren’t always spoken, needs that hadn’t been met, and dreams that had been waiting patiently to be acknowledged. Someone who is too used to ignoring those parts of me because I was not open to really taking an honest look at myself out of fear.
But once I started listening, life felt different.
It didn’t necessarily get easier, it became truer.
I felt more connected to the people around me because I was finally connected to myself.
That’s when life stopped feeling like something I was managing and started feeling like something I was actually living. I saw myself through a clear lens that I had never bothered to polish up before and what I found wasn’t something to fix, it was something to appreciate.
All those years I thought self-awareness might open a can of worms, it actually opened a window.
A window to more clarity, more calm, and more connection with the person I’d been rushing past for years.
That’s the gift I found when I finally stopped avoiding self-awareness. It didn’t make me question my life, it made me see it.
And once you see yourself clearly, you can’t help but start living more intentionally, more honestly, and more alive than ever before.
Ask yourself: How self-aware do you allow yourself to be? What might be smudging up seeing yourself through a clearer lens?
The Truth About Real Connection
10/15/2025
Any other School of Greatness students here? I have been following Lewis for quite some time now and every once in awhile he drops an episode that just has one bombshell after another. I couldn’t even take notes on this one because I felt like I was writing down every word. No matter where you are in a relationship. No matter how you both handle conflict. No matter how connected you are with one another. This is a must listen!! After you do, let me know if you agree with how valuable it is.
How to Get Along Better with Someone Who is Competitive with You!
10/14/2025
Whether comparisons bring you down or motivate you to rise above, it can be very frustrating dealing with someone who always seems to be competing with you. Here’s a little perspective that can help you get along better even when frustrated and annoyed by their behavior.
Trying Tai Chi
10/14/2025
It has been over a year since I have done any type of regular exercise and I am ready to get back to moving my body!! I know I need to start slow and can’t grab my boxing gloves and throw down with the heavy bag just yet so I am giving this a try. I really enjoyed it! I can see how it is so good for the body and mind - a gentleness from the fluid movement but yet you feel it working your muscles too! Have you tried it? Join me!! And btw, you don’t have to be over 50 to enjoy!
You’re unhappy because you’re not in alignment with who you are, not because of what someone else is doing
10/14/2025
This isn’t about letting someone off the hook for their behavior, that’s where your boundaries come in. You can’t control the choices someone else makes, whether they’re directed at you or part of their own path. But you can choose to stay true to yourself and show up in a way that aligns with your values.
When you’re being true to yourself and are following your own compass, you stop needing someone else to behave a certain way in order for you to feel okay. Their choices can still hurt, disappoint, or even end a chapter but they don’t have to derail your sense of peace. Alignment is that quiet inner knowing that you are acting from your values, not your wounds.
So the next time you feel unsettled, instead of focusing on what they’re doing, ask yourself: Am I being who I want to be in this moment?
That’s where your empowerment lives and where peace begins.
SIP (Self Intelligence Principle) Card of the Week
10/13/2025
When faced with a challenging situation, taking pause to respond instead of quickly reacting can make all the difference in the outcome.
I know this is nothing new, we’ve all heard this. One of the reasons I created this SIP card deck is to remind ourselves of the helpful tips we all know but can struggle to apply in real life situations. This idea sounds simple enough but simple is not always easy.
In those moments when emotions rise or things feel tense, our instinct is to protect, defend, or fix. But when we pause, even for a few seconds, we give our wiser, more grounded self a chance to show up. That pause is where awareness happens. It’s where we connect with our own natural personal process to lead with how we do things best, including handle tough situations. It’s where choice lives. It’s where self-intelligence takes the lead over impulse.
Next time you feel yourself reacting, try taking one intentional breath before responding. It doesn’t have to be perfect, just present. You might be surprised how differently things unfold when you allow space for understanding instead of urgency.
Essential Oil of the Week
10/13/2025
What comes to mind when you think of lime? For me, it’s a wedge in a cold beer on a summer day.
But did you know that Lime actually is full of all kinds of healing benefits? And is a very powerful cleansing agent!
Not only does lime essential oil smell refreshing, energizing and uplifting it has the following properties:
Anti-inflammatory
Antiseptic
Antioxidant
Antibacterial
Detoxifier
Disinfectant
Diuretic
So the next time you are starting to feel under the weather, warn out or sluggish, toss a drop or 2 of lime in your water (cold beer or cocktail 😉) and let it go to work.
When struggling with memory or having a hard time focusing, try diffusing some lime maybe with vetiver.
And add about 10 drops in a glass bottle with vinegar and distilled water for an all natural cleaning spray that will wipe out those unwanted germs.
Let me know if you have any questions - I am happy to chat further about it.
Are you a Consumer or a Creator?
10/9/2025
Maybe after consuming this video, you will be inspired to create?
The Disconnect May Be in the Definition
10/8/2025
One simple overlooked reason why you struggle with being in agreement with one another and how to prevent frustration, annoyance and disconnect that leads to resentment and relationship breakdown.
10/8/2025
“Shelley Stop Bossing ‘Them’ Kids”
Up until the age of 50, I went by Shelley which is short for Rachelle, my birth name. And when I think of that name one thing always pops into mind. It’s my Aunt Sandy shouting down to the basement when she would watch my sister and I along with her 2 girls all of which were younger than me - “Shelley stop bossing ‘them’ kids”!!! Even though I was just around 5 or 6, I was the oldest so of course I put myself in charge and even back then I felt the need to guide others. Although over the years I have definitely learned to relax my tone, messaging and intent! But from a very young age, it was innate for me to lead. I always had confidence in myself, that is up until someone else challenged my sense of self or dismissed my ideas. I can see now how easily my confidence could be squashed when I allowed my worth to be tied to others’ approval. It wasn’t that I didn’t trust myself, it was that I was taught to trust others more. I wanted to be liked, accepted, seen as helpful rather than controlling. So, I tried to conform and do as I was told which lead to second-guessing what I naturally knew how to do: lead.
Through working with the Self-Intelligence Principles, I began to understand that my desire to guide, advise, or offer perspective isn’t something to suppress, it’s something to steward. I no longer see it as “being bossy.” I see it as having insight and wanting to share it. There’s a difference between trying to control and trying to contribute. I’ve learned to honor that line.
These days, I lead with intention, not insistence. I give advice not to be right but to be of value. I’ve learned to release the outcome whether someone follows my suggestion or not isn’t the point. What matters is that they pause long enough to consider a new angle, to feel seen, to gain clarity. That’s where my fulfillment comes from.
It’s a kind of growth that feels deeper than maturity, it’s acceptance. Acceptance of who I’ve always been, without apology. Acceptance that my offerings are gifts, even when they’re not received the way I imagine. And acceptance that my worth isn’t proven by how many people agree with me, it’s reflected in how authentically I show up.
So now, when I share a thought, an idea, or a perspective, I do it from a place of genuine care. I offer it freely, without attachment. Because leadership, at its core, isn’t about having the final say, it’s about having the courage to say what others need to hear, even if they’re not ready to hear it yet.
Maybe you’ve been told you’re “too much,” “too opinionated,” or “too intense.” But what if that’s just your natural leadership showing through? The world needs people willing to see things differently and speak up with heart.
Ask yourself: where might you be dimming your light to make others more comfortable and what could shift if you honored that part of you instead?
The Struggle with Boundaries is Real
10/7/2025
No matter what strengths show up where in your personal process, every client meeting inevitably leads to a discuss around setting and keeping boundaries.
If you are not yet familiar with Terri Cole, she is the Boundary Boss. I stumbled upon her podcast a few years ago and it is still a go-to when I feel myself start to struggle. The important thing to remember is that having clear boundaries is one of the best gifts we can give people. Take a listen… * If it’s more applicable, replace family system with workplace dynamics or friend groups. *
SIP (Self Intelligence Principle) Card of the Week
10/6/2025
Success is not an accomplishment, it is an alignment and is not something to obtain but to experience.
We all have our own definitions of success, so maybe this statement doesn’t immediately resonate. But no matter how you define it, it’s worth revisiting from time to time.
At one stage of life, success might have meant getting all A’s, hitting financial goals or climbing the next rung on the career ladder. Later, it might mean peace of mind, balance, or having time to actually enjoy the life you’ve built.
The truth is success isn’t a single moment you reach and check off the list. It’s a rhythm you find when your actions, values, and priorities move together and are rooted in your personal process. When who you are, what you’re doing, what matters most and how you go about it are in sync, that’s alignment. That’s success.
So give yourself permission to redefine it. Let your version of success grow and shift as you do. Because the more you align with what truly feels right, the more successful you already are.
And be sure to enjoy the successful experiences you are having along the way and take a moment to appreciate what you did to get there. Too many of us gloss over them because we are already focused on the next.
Because when you pause long enough to notice how far you’ve come, you realize success isn’t waiting somewhere down the road, you’re already in it. Let this be your reminder to slow down, align with what feels true, and celebrate the moments that show you’re living your version of “enough.”
Essential Oil of the Week
10/6/2025
Did you know that essential oil use was my gateway to empowerment?
As a stay at home mom, the word empowerment did not cross my mind a whole lot at all. In fact, I don’t ever remember giving it a second thought, until I started using essential oils. All the sudden I went from guessing and hoping I was grabbing the right OTC medication for whatever it was ailing us, or just bought whatever cleaning products were on sale without thinking twice about it. But once I learned how powerful the drops in these bottles were at keeping us healthy, I was not only hooked, I experienced what it was like to feel empowered!
So I will be featuring an oil of the week to share my experiencing and give you some ideas in which you can feel more empowered too!
This week is Citronella. If you are like me you think of bug repellent and not much else. But I was recently enlightened on it’s many uses and health benefits as well. Here are a few
Digestive & intestinal inflammation in particular reaction to spicy food - apply to bottoms of feet and over upper abdomen and liver area
Fungal & bacterial infections of intestinal and urinary tract as well as parasites - apply to lower abdomen, bottoms of feet and/or flex points
Post-surgery pain, swollen joints & arthritis - apply to areas of concern
Poor circulation, heart palpations, seizures, high blood pressure - apply over heart to bottoms of feet and to extremities
Anxiety, depression, insomnia and low energy - diffuse and apply to neck and forehead up spine and bottoms of feet
Surface cleansing and air freshener - add 6-8 drops + 1 T vinegar to glass spray bottle filled with water or diffuse
I hope you find this helpful! Please reach out with any questions.
You Don’t Really Know Until You Experience For Yourself
10/4/2025
Enjoy a Feel Empowered Every Day message with Elle Hart
A Big Part of Who I Am is Who I Am Not
10/2/2025
A big part of what I do is give people permission (whether they know they need it or not) to stop thinking they have to be all things to all people and to let go of what does not come naturally. Many of my clients struggle with the idea that not all 34 CliftonStrengths traits show up in their top 10.
We’ve been programmed in school to believe we should excel in every subject, get straight A’s, master every skill, and be well-rounded at all costs. That conditioning often carries into adulthood, where facing what lands at the bottom of our Strengths list can feel uncomfortable or even discouraging.
But here’s the shift: those traits at the bottom are not weaknesses. They are simply who you are not. They sit at the far end of a natural continuum of what comes least naturally to you. And that’s not something to fix, it’s something to free yourself from.
When you accept that you don’t have to be everything, you create space to focus on what you are naturally gifted at. You stop wasting energy trying to be more like someone you are not and start investing in being your best self. That’s where confidence, clarity, and connection grow, by honoring how YOU do things best.
So, the next time you notice a bottom strength, don’t see it as a failure, see it as a reminder of what you don’t have to carry. After all, a big part of who you are is who you are not.
Are you being tested?
If so, I CONGRATULATE you!!
10/1/2025