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About Me
2/28/2026
I just rewrote my whole website including my About page. I am attaching my previous one here for those of you interested in diving deeper into my story. As I have often said, it is not uncommon, but I do hope that for those of you experiencing a similar story you may find it inspiring, just as the many stories that helped (and continue to do so) as I have grown over the years.
Although my personal story is common, many are surprised by it
Due to my family situation, I had to grow up fast even though independence was not encouraged. While I appeared confident because I was outgoing, I was anything but self-assured. I struggled with not having a strong sense of self and often relied on others’ opinions and validations to determine my decisions and worth.
The struggle led to many challenges in my adult years including morphing myself into my family. I married young and was a stay-at-home mom for 25 years raising 3 boys until my whole world turned upside down.
MY PIVOTAL MOMENT
Time and resentment caught up to us and we ended up divorcing the same year we were approaching empty nesting. I knew I would never heal if I didn’t make a change, so I sold most of my belongings, packed up what was left, and moved across the country to a place I knew no one and had no connections. This was the hardest and scariest thing I’ve ever done, but it led me to find the path that allowed me to grow as an individual.
WHERE I AM TODAY
I landed a job at a middle school and it reminded me of my teen years. Back then I knew I wanted to pursue a career helping teens and their families, but I let my high school counselor talk me out of it.
During my time working in the middle school, I tapped into my natural abilities (which I now know as my Strengths) to offer students the kind of guidance they may not be used to receiving.
Upon realizing my gifts, I was eager to share with not only students but adults as well so I set out on a new adventure.
I’ve learned to connect with others based on who I really am. Now, I am in a healthy and respectful relationship and have authentic bonds with my adult sons.
My passion-built business is based on my strengths and gifts. My natural need to teach combined with my entrepreneurial spirit has led me to follow my heart at last. And has lended toward the creation of a collaboration of like-minded professionals where we collaborate with one another to offer you the best of all worlds. Check out the SMW Collective Here
And now I get to help people just like you feel empowered every day!
What If We Had a “Behavior” Language?
2/25/2026
Most people know their love language.
You’ve probably taken the quiz.
You know if you light up with words of affirmation or feel most seen through acts of service.
The whole concept from The 5 Love Languages caught on because it gave us language for something we were already feeling.
It helped us stop saying, “You don’t care about me.” And start saying, “Oh, this is how you give and receive love.”
That shift alone has saved a lot of relationships.
But lately I’ve been thinking what if we had a behavior language the same way we have a love language?
Not a label.
Not a diagnosis.
Not a box to put someone in.
Just a way to understand:
Why one person needs time to think before responding.
Why another jumps in quickly and takes charge.
Why one asks a hundred questions.
Why another just wants to move forward already.
Why one avoids conflict.
Why another walks straight into it.
What if instead of saying
“They’re too much.”
“They’re too sensitive.”
“They’re controlling.”
“They don’t care.”
We could say,
“That’s their way of moving through the world.”
Imagine what that would do in a marriage.
In a friendship.
On a leadership team.
Between a parent and a teenager.
We lean heavily on love languages when things feel off emotionally. But what if the real friction isn’t about love at all? What if it’s about behavior?
About how someone processes.
How they decide.
How they respond under pressure.
How they handle uncertainty.
We spend so much time trying to fix behavior when we don’t even understand it. And understanding changes everything.
I’ve been observing this in my own life recently by noticing where disconnect actually wasn’t about intention, it was about interpretation.
It’s fascinating what shifts when you stop taking behavior personally and start getting curious about it instead.
If you’ve ever thought, “Why do they do that?’ or “Why do I do that?” maybe this would be helpful to you.
When We Think We Know
2/24/2026
I thought for sure people experienced me a certain way but it turns out I was wrong.
SIP (Self Intelligence Principle) Card of the Week
2/23/2026
“Move forward with thoughtful precision, knowing that careful choices lead to enduring success.”
We live in a culture that tends to praise quick decisions.
Fast answers.
Immediate action.
Trust your gut and go.
And while that works beautifully for some people, I’ve noticed it can quietly shame others.
There are people who don’t leap.
They scan.
They consider.
They look for what could go wrong before they look for what could go right.
And I’ve watched how often that gets labeled as overthinking.
But here’s what I’ve observed.
For some, what looks like overthinking is actually protection.
It’s discernment.
It’s care.
It’s responsibility.
Deliberative energy doesn’t rush because it understands that choices have weight. It senses risk. It reads the room. It notices fine print others skip right over.
When used intentionally, it creates:
• Fewer regrets
• Stronger boundaries
• Well-constructed plans
• Decisions that stand the test of time
The key isn’t eliminating the thinking.
It’s being mindful of it.
When Deliberative is running the show unconsciously, it can stall momentum.
When it’s honored and managed, it becomes quiet wisdom.
I’ve seen people exhale when they realize their careful nature isn’t a flaw. It’s simply a different pace. A different way of moving through the world.
Some build by sprinting.
Some build by measuring twice and cutting once.
Both create.
The beauty is knowing which one is yours and using it on purpose.
Essential Oil of the Week
2/23/2026
Patchouli, you either love it or you hate it, there is not a lot of in between with this oil.
I used to think of Patchouli as the oil that walked into the room before the person did. Earthy. Musky. Strong. The kind of scent that immediately brings up images of incense, record stores, and the 70’s.
But over time, I’ve noticed something different about it.
Patchouli is grounding.
Not in a trendy way. In a “come back into your body” kind of way.
It has this deep, rich aroma that doesn’t float up and out like citrus or peppermint. It settles. It anchors. It reminds you that you are here. In your body. In this moment.
And that’s powerful.
It’s often associated with:
• Emotional grounding
• Calming scattered thoughts
• Supporting healthy skin
• Easing tension connected to stress
• Encouraging a sense of stability during transition
I’ve reached for Patchouli during seasons when life felt a bit untethered. When my mind was moving faster than my feet. When I needed something that felt solid and steady rather than uplifting and energizing.
It blends beautifully with wild orange, lavender, or frankincense if the straight scent feels like too much. (And yes… sometimes it is.)
What I’ve come to appreciate about Patchouli is that it doesn’t try to be light and airy. It owns its depth.
And maybe that’s why it’s such a divider.
Some scents ask you to rise up.
Patchouli asks you to root down.
And depending on the season you’re in, that might be exactly what you need.
The Power of One Small Word
2/22/2026
I watched a short video the other day where a man talked about the power of one simple word: maybe.
Not as a cop-out.
Not as indecision.
Not as passivity.
But as space.
He suggested that when we hear something that immediately hits our internal alarm system, that’s wrong… that’s not true… that’s not how I see it… instead of bracing, defending, correcting, or withdrawing… we could simply respond with:
Maybe.
Maybe there’s more to it.
Maybe I don’t see the full picture yet.
Maybe their experience led them here.
Maybe my reaction is telling me something about me.
I started noticing how quickly we attach identity to our perspectives. How fast we interpret feedback as criticism. How easily we assume intent. How strongly we cling to being “right” because it feels stabilizing.
And how much tension softens when that one word enters the room.
In my work, I spend a lot of time watching what happens when someone hears something about themselves that doesn’t quite match the story they’ve been telling.
Sometimes there’s relief.
Sometimes resistance.
Sometimes surprise.
And sometimes, if they can hold it gently, there’s a quiet shift into curiosity.
Maybe.
Maybe I don’t handle conflict the way I thought I did.
Maybe I come across stronger than I realize.
Maybe I withdraw more than I intend.
Maybe the other person isn’t wrong, they just have a different perspective.
It’s interesting what happens when we allow perspective without immediately labeling it good or bad.
No one has to collapse.
No one has to defend.
No one has to win.
Just space.
I’ve been experimenting with it myself. Catching that inner surge of certainty and softening it with a quiet maybe. Not to abandon what I believe. But to widen the lens just enough to see around the edges.
It’s a small word.
But sometimes small shifts change the entire direction of the conversation and the relationship.
Something to notice this week.
Where might maybe create a little breathing room?
Stop Expecting You From Other People
2/20/2026
What I observe, over and over again, is how often frustration in relationships isn’t really about the surface issue. It’s about the silent expectation underneath it.
“I would have handled that differently.”
“I would have shown up sooner.”
“I would have said something.”
“I would never forget that.”
Exactly.
You would have.
Because that’s how you move through the world.
I notice the person who values efficiency gets irritated with someone who needs time to process.
The one who feels everything deeply wonders why the other seems unaffected.
The planner feels unsettled by the spontaneous one.
The spontaneous one feels boxed in by the planner.
And neither is wrong.
They’re just different.
Sometimes what looks like carelessness is actually someone prioritizing something else.
What looks like overreacting might simply be depth.
What feels like control could be someone’s way of creating safety.
What feels like indifference might be steadiness.
I’ve watched so many disconnects soften the moment someone realizes:
“Oh… they’re not wired like me.”
It’s such a subtle shift.
Less “why aren’t you like I would be?”
More “ah, that’s how you operate.”
When we stop expecting ourselves from other people, space opens up.
Not space to lower standards.
Not space to tolerate disrespect.
Just space to understand that the way we would do it isn’t the only way it can be done.
And sometimes, that understanding changes everything.
Highest Form of Intelligence
2/19/2026
I found this post on the @timeinvestors Instagram page so interesting I had to share here. What are your thoughts? Do you agree?
The Model Health Show with Shawn Stevenson
2/18/2026
Dr. Shadé Zahrai joins Shawn to share 4 powerful ways to rewire your brain for confidence, to overcome self doubt and fuel bigger success. I love her research backed knowledge, how she walks us through the inner attributes that guide us through our lives and the connection to our personal processes.
What Type of Fire Horse Are You?
2/17/2026
Despite the mistake of showing I'm not an expert in horses (foal not calf 🤦♀️) I hope this message resonates with you and you have an amazing year enjoying the fire horse energy your way!
What Are You Shedding?
2/16/2026
I have really been embracing this ending of the year of the snake by doing some deep self reflection and getting to the root of what it is I need to shed in order to feel free to fully embrace me and have had some really profound epiphanies leading through this process. There is still more to explore and I will be sharing details in my upcoming book so be on the look out for that in the next few months.
SIP (Self Intelligence Principle) Card of the Week
2/16/2026
““Peace comes when we focus on control of selves only and we stop trying to control others’ thoughts, feelings, and actions.”
This one did not come naturally to me.
For a long time I believed peace came from making sure everything and everyone stayed on track ( or in others words did as I thought they should).
If I could just explain better, anticipate better, fix quicker, and they would listen more, then things would feel calm.
But what I slowly realized was I wasn’t actually creating peace. I was trying to manage discomfort. And when I didn’t have control within myself, I tried to create it around me.
It took a pretty significant life shift for me to finally see the difference between influence and control.
I started paying attention to my reactions, my expectations, my urgency to correct situations, even when no one asked me to.
That was the hard part… learning to bring the focus back to me.
My thoughts.
My responses.
My boundaries.
My ability to sit with uncertainty.
Real peace didn’t show up when others behaved how I hoped. It showed up when I practiced self-control instead of other-control.
Since that shift, relationships feel lighter. Conversations feel safer. And life, in general, feels less like something I have to manage and more like something I can participate in.
It’s still a daily mindfulness.
I jokingly call myself a recovering control freak because those tendencies like to reappear whenever I’m unsettled inside.
But now I know that urge isn’t a sign someone else needs adjusting. It’s a sign I need grounding.
Essential Oil of the Week
2/16/2026
Lavender has somehow been labeled the “sleep or relaxation oil.”
Which is funny because it’s actually the oil I reach for when life feels anything but sleepy or relaxed.
It’s the oil people underestimate because it smells gentle.
Soft. Familiar. Almost ordinary.
But lavender is one of the most regulating oils I know.
Not sedating but regulating.
There’s a difference.
It doesn’t just knock you out at night.
It helps your system come back to neutral.
I use it when my brain won’t slow down.
When my chest feels tight.
When emotions feel bigger than the situation.
When my skin is irritated.
When my body feels reactive instead of responsive.
Lavender doesn’t force calm, it reminds your body how to find it.
And sometimes what we actually need isn’t energy or rest, it’s stability.
That steady middle ground where you can think clearly again, respond instead of react, and feel like yourself.
So if you’ve mentally filed lavender away as the oil to only use at bed or bath time you may be overlooking one of the most supportive tools for everyday regulation.
Gentle doesn’t mean weak.
Often it means your body trusts it enough to listen.
Valentine’s Day Reminder With Love
2/14/2026
Valentine’s Day tends to shine a spotlight on how we show love outward, the words we say, the gestures we plan, the effort we give.
But underneath every relationship is something fundamental… the relationship we have with ourselves.
People don’t just respond to what we say we deserve.
They respond to what we consistently allow, accept, and believe is normal.
If we constantly override our needs, minimize our feelings, or push through things that don’t sit right, others often follow that lead, not because they want to hurt us, but because we’ve unintentionally shown them that’s the pace and tone we live at.
And the opposite is true too.
When you listen to yourself, speak honestly, rest when needed, hold boundaries kindly, and treat your time and energy as meaningful, it teaches others how to meet you there. Not perfectly, but more clearly.
Loving yourself isn’t ego.
It isn’t distance.
It isn’t shutting people out.
It’s creating a steady reference point so connection can exist without losing yourself inside of it.
So today isn’t only about how you love others.
It’s also a gentle check-in:
Are you offering yourself the same patience, understanding, and care you so naturally give away?
Because the love you practice internally becomes the blueprint others learn from externally.
Would You Just Relax?!
2/13/2026
How many of you have been told to “chill” or “just relax”…
but what does that actually mean?
Because relaxation certainly isn’t something you can do on command.
If it were, you’d flip a switch and instantly feel calm.
Instead, most of us sit there trying to relax while our mind keeps moving and our body refuses to settle, which somehow ends up feeling more frustrating than helpful.
That’s because relaxation isn’t simply doing less… it’s doing what resets you.
We tend to picture relaxation as laying on the couch, curling up with a blanket, maybe vegging to a show in the background. And for some people, that truly works. Their system settles through stillness.
But for others?
Stillness makes the noise louder.
They relax by walking, organizing, lifting weights, creating, talking something out, or finally tackling the thing looping in their head. Movement calms them. Progress calms them. Engagement calms them.
One person exhales by slowing down.
Another exhales by moving forward.
And neither is wrong.
When we try to relax in ways that don’t match how we naturally reset, we don’t recharge, we just pause while our internal engine keeps running. That’s why an hour on the couch can leave you drained, but twenty minutes doing something engaging can leave you clear.
Real relaxation happens when you honor your personal process.
Instead of asking, “How am I supposed to relax?”
Try asking, “What actually settles me?”
Relaxation isn’t a specific activity.
It’s the moment tension releases because you’re finally operating in a way that fits you.
I’ve had to learn this around guilt, the kind that shows up when your body needs rest but your mind wants movement… or your mind needs quiet but your body feels fine. For a long time I thought one of those had to be wrong. If I laid down, I felt unproductive. If I got up to write or organize to clear my head, I felt like I wasn’t truly resting.
What I’ve realized is sometimes I’m resting my body, and sometimes I’m resting my brain and both are needed. Sometimes together, other times separately.
Now I pay attention to which one is tired instead of forcing both to do the same thing. And there’s no reason to feel guilty for taking time to relax, no matter what it looks like, because relaxation isn’t a luxury… it’s necessary.
4 Surefire Ways to Cause Disconnect in a Relationship
Strong relationships don’t fall apart overnight, they slowly erode through small, repeated patterns that create distance instead of connection.
In this post, I’m sharing four common (and often unintentional) ways we create disconnect both personally and professionally. These aren’t dramatic betrayals or explosive conflicts. They’re everyday habits that quietly chip away at trust, respect, and emotional safety.
We’ll look at what happens when control replaces trust… when pushback feels like a threat instead of growth… when we filter everything through a personal lens… and when silent assumptions set everyone up for disappointment.
If you’ve ever wondered why tension builds even when you care deeply… why certain conversations escalate quickly… or why you keep feeling misunderstood in your relationships… this series is for you.
Each short video offers practical perspective to help you build stronger communication, emotional maturity, and mutual respect at home, at work, and within yourself.
Press play, stream along, and let’s strengthen the way we show up for the people who matter most.
2/11/2026
SIP (Self Intelligence Principle) Card of the Week
2/9/2026
“Determine your life roadtrip – how you like to travel, then be sure you are in the driver’s seat.”
When I bought my son a car, I handed him the keys and said something I had thought about for years.
“You are in the driver’s seat of your life. You get to determine where you go and how you get there. But keep one thing in mind. You can have me ride shotgun helping to point you in the right direction and keep watch for obstacles. I can ride in the backseat and try not to be that annoying backseat driver. Or you can pop me in the trunk where you don’t have to hear a word I say. Just know, no matter what, I will always be in the car with you throughout your life.”
It wasn’t really about the car.
It was about ownership.
So many adults are still unknowingly letting someone else drive, expectations, fear, culture, family patterns, old narratives, even well-meaning advice. And then we wonder why we feel resentful, burned out, or lost.
Self-intelligence asks a simple but powerful question:
How do you actually like to travel?
Fast and spontaneous?
Mapped out and steady?
With music blaring and windows down?
Quiet, reflective, stopping often to recalibrate?
There isn’t one right way to take a road trip. But there is a right way for you.
The tension begins when you’re wired for scenic routes but trying to speed down the interstate because you think you “should.” Or when you’re built for decisive movement but keep pulling over waiting for permission.
Being in the driver’s seat doesn’t mean you don’t seek guidance. It means you choose who rides with you and where they sit.
Mentors can ride shotgun.
Loved ones can sit in the back offering perspective.
Some voices may need to stay outside the vehicle altogether.
But your hands belong on the wheel.
You get to determine the destination.
You get to decide the pace.
You get to choose the route.
And even when you feel unsure, even when you hit construction zones or wrong turns, the power is still yours.
This week, take a look at your road trip.
Are you driving? Or did you quietly slide over and let something else take control?
Adjust the seat.
Check your mirrors.
Turn the music up if you need to.
And move forward on your terms.
Essential Oil of the Week
2/9/2026
There are seasons when life feels light and creative and flowing…
And then there are seasons that feel heavy.
Not dramatic.
Not chaotic.
Just heavy.
The kind of heaviness where you’re carrying concern for people you love.
For your health.
For the world.
For decisions that don’t have easy answers.
This week’s essential oil has been quietly supporting me through that weight — doTERRA Console Blend.
Console is known as the “Comforting Blend,” and that’s exactly how it feels. Not like a quick mood boost. Not like a burst of energy. More like someone gently sitting beside you saying, “You don’t have to carry this alone.”
It’s grounding without being sedating.
Soothing without numbing.
Steady without forcing positivity.
I’ve been applying it over my heart and wrists in the mornings, especially before stepping into conversations or responsibilities that feel emotionally layered. There’s something about pairing breath with intention and scent that brings your nervous system back into a place of steadiness.
When times feel troubling, it’s easy to go into fix-it mode… or shut-down mode. Console invites something different allowing yourself to feel without being swallowed by what you’re feeling.
And that, to me, is self-intelligence in action.
We don’t ignore what’s heavy.
We don’t pretend it isn’t there.
We also don’t let it define us.
We tend to ourselves gently.
We regulate.
We reset.
Sometimes the smallest supports, a walk, a quiet moment, a hand over your heart, a comforting scent become anchors in uncertain seasons.
If you’re walking through something that feels weighty right now, consider what comfort looks like for you. It doesn’t have to be dramatic. It just has to be honest.
This week, Console has been mine.
“Kindness is Loaning Someone Your Strength Instead of Reminding Them of Their Weakness.”
2/6/2026
I love that.
Because here’s the thing, I don’t actually believe we are walking around with a list of strengths and weaknesses stamped on our foreheads.
I don’t even use that language in my work.
We all have access to the full range of human traits/behaviors. The difference is in how naturally they flow through us. Some show up easily. They’re our go-to’s. They energize us. Others require more intention. They’re not wrong. They’re not bad. They’re just not our first instinct.
And when we forget that?
That’s when comparison creeps in.
That’s when judgment sneaks up.
That’s when we start highlighting what someone isn’t instead of honoring what they are.
Kindness, to me, is recognizing that your natural way of moving through the world might be exactly what someone else needs in a moment.
If you naturally bring clarity and decisiveness, you can steady someone who feels overwhelmed.
If you lead with empathy, you can sit with someone who feels unseen.
If you think strategically, you can help someone zoom out when they’re stuck in the weeds.
If you’re wired for action, you can help someone take the first small step.
And on the flip side, when something feels hard for someone else, it’s not because they’re lacking. It’s because that trait doesn’t sit at the top of their personal process.
That’s not a flaw.
It’s a difference.
Kindness is saying,
“I see how you’re wired.”
“I see how I’m wired.”
“And instead of pointing out what you’re not doing like me… I’ll lend you what comes naturally to me.”
Not to fix.
Not to control.
But to support.
When we start viewing one another through this lens, we stop labeling. We start appreciating. We become curious instead of critical.
And something shifts.
We move from reminding people of where they struggle…
to standing beside them with what we have to offer.
That’s not just kindness.
That’s self-intelligence in action.
Fighting a Virus From Hell
2/5/2026
Being sick has a way of slowing everything down.
And if you’re anything like me, slowing down can feel frustrating.
Over the past few weeks, I’ve been reminded of something simple but humbling: healing and strengthening doesn’t respond to one-time effort. It responds to continued action.
You don’t take a supplement once and expect your nervous system to regulate.
You don’t stretch one time and expect years of tension to release.
You don’t rest for one afternoon and assume your body will fully reset.
It’s the steady, repeated returning that makes the difference.
And while I’ve been walking through this physically, I couldn’t help but notice how true this is in every area of life.
We read one book and think we should feel transformed.
We have one meaningful conversation and assume the relationship is “fixed.”
We gain insight about ourselves and believe clarity alone will carry us forward.
Insight is powerful. But insight practiced is what creates change.
Learning how you naturally operate, how you think, decide, relate, recharge is a beautiful beginning. But the real shift happens when you intentionally use that awareness over and over again.
When you pause before reacting.
When you choose alignment instead of urgency.
When you follow your personal process in all areas of life.
Not perfectly.
Not dramatically.
Just consistently.
I have been reminded that follow-through isn’t about having all the answers yourself but about receiving guidance in the pursuit.
It’s trusting that small, aligned actions compound.
It’s respecting that growth whether physical, emotional, or relational unfolds through experiences.
It’s giving something enough time to actually work.
If you’re in a season of trying to feel better, do better, or become more grounded in who you are… maybe the invitation isn’t to do more.
Maybe it’s simply to stay with what you’ve already chosen.
To repeat it.
To practice it.
To give it room to take root.
Sometimes the breakthrough isn’t in finding something new.
It’s in allowing yourself to be supported long enough for real change to take hold.
The Ultimate Nick Saban Leadership Speech
Whether you are the leader of a team, organization, a household or your own life, this message is for you. My take from it is, at the end of the day success (which is fleeting and not guaranteed to continue) comes down to respect and trust. Respect and trust are both the results of and foundation for strong relationships built by focusing on getting along better with yourself and one another. What is yours?
2/4/2026
SIP (Self Intelligence Principle) Card of the Week
“Step forward with clarity and confidence, guiding others through uncertainty with decisive action.”
Command gets a bad reputation and honestly, it’s usually misunderstood.
When Command comes naturally and sits high in your personal process, people tend to feel it. Your clarity creates calm. Your decisiveness reduces uncertainty. Others often respond well and many even welcome your direction because it brings structure when things feel unclear.
That’s Command used well.
Grounded. Clear. Steady.
But when Command sits low, and someone believes they’re supposed to take charge anyway, things can get messy. Direction turns into force. Confidence turns into control. And what’s meant to help can land as bossy, sharp, or “bitchy,” creating disconnect instead of leadership.
This isn’t a character flaw, it’s a process mismatch.
Self-intelligence invites a different question:
Is taking charge actually my role here… or am I trying to lead in a way that doesn’t honor how I’m wired?
True leadership isn’t about sounding the loudest or standing at the front. It’s about knowing when to step forward and how to guide in a way others can receive.
When you respect your personal process and the process of those around you Command becomes clarity instead of conflict.
And that’s when everyone moves forward together.
2/2/2026
Essential Oil of the Week
2/2/2026
This week I’m reaching for Clary Calm, not to fix anything, but to support what’s already trying to come back together.
The puzzle in backdrop of the photo wasn’t accidental.
Lately, life has felt a bit like pieces scattered across the table. Some days you know exactly where they go. Other days you’re just holding one piece, turning it over, hoping it will eventually make sense.
Clary Calm feels like that quiet companion while you’re sorting things out.
A gentle reminder to pause… breathe… soften… and let things come together in their own time, one piece at a time.
It’s especially helpful when emotions feel tangled, hormones feel loud, or your nervous system just needs a signal that it’s safe to slow down. Not a push. Not a demand. Just steady support.
So this week, consider this your invitation, one deep breath, one small moment of care, one piece at a time.
You don’t have to solve the whole challenge today, just keep showing up to the table.
The Kevin Miller Podcast
2/1/2026
I have been listening to Kevin Miller since he used to run the Zig Show Podcast and always find value in his perspective. This guest in particular really made an impact on me due to his story, his history, how he has grown and overcome and where it lead him to today. This is one to share with your kids as well especially if they think life is treating them harshly.
The Slight Edge
2/1/2026
The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson was one of the very first personal development books I ever read, and it’s one that has stayed with me over the years.
I’ll be honest, there were moments where the message felt a bit redundant. But that’s also exactly why I still recommend it. The concept itself is simple, and when something is simple, repetition is often what makes it stick. And when it sticks, it has the power to quietly change the way you live your life.
I remember one day when I was working in a middle school, trying to get through to a student who was really struggling. We were walking and talking about all the stress and distractions in his home and how it was affecting his sleep, his focus, everything. As we walked, I started subtly shifting my toes with each step, barely noticeable, and pointed out that without realizing it, we had already changed direction and ended up on a different path.
That was the point. Even the smallest changes in your mindset, your perspective, your attitude, the effort you give add up over time. Tiny shifts, repeated consistently, create real and lasting change.
I think about that often, especially when I’m feeling overwhelmed and convinced I need to make big decisions to get big results. Instead, I remind myself of the slight edge effect. I slow myself down, focus on small, steady shifts, and trust that they’ll lead me where I want to go just like those tiny toe adjustments did on that walk.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed or stuck thinking everything has to change at once, I highly recommend this book, t’s a gentle reminder that small, intentional shifts really do add up.