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April 2026 - March 2026 - February 2026 - January 2026 - December 2025 - November 2025 - October 2025 - September 2025 - From the Vault
4/30/2026
Your Behavior Language (My new book)
There’s a moment most of us have had.
You’re in a conversation, maybe with someone you love, maybe at work, maybe with one of your kids and something just isn’t landing.
You’re saying what you mean.
They’re hearing something else entirely.
And somewhere in that space, the thought shows up:
Why do they do that?
Or… why do I?
That question has followed me for most of my life. Not in a frustrated, throw-your-hands-up kind of way but in a curious one. There always felt like there was something underneath what we were seeing. Something that, if we could just put language to it, would make things make more sense.
That’s what this book became.
Not a system.
Not a set of rules.
And not a way to fix people.
More of a lens.
A way of seeing that every person is operating from a natural pattern… a way of thinking, responding, relating, and moving through the world that is uniquely their own. What I call their behavior language.
And when those languages don’t line up, we don’t usually recognize it as difference.
We interpret it.
We decide what it means.
We take it personally.
We start building stories around it.
But most of the time, what we’re reacting to isn’t what’s actually happening.
It’s our read of it.
That’s where so much of the tension comes from. Not from bad intentions but from misread behavior.
The more I’ve seen this, first in my own life, then in the lives of the people I work with, the more clear it’s become:
We don’t need more strategies for communication.
We need better understanding of what we’re actually looking at.
This book is simply a way into that.
Not to label yourself.
Not to label anyone else.
But to begin noticing.
Where you move quickly and where you need time.
Where you speak out loud and where you process internally.
What energizes you. What quietly drains you.
What you expect from others… and what they may not naturally be wired to give.
And once you start seeing that, not just in yourself, but in the people around you, something shifts.
There’s a little more space.
A little less urgency to fix.
A little more curiosity where frustration used to sit.
It doesn’t make everything easy.
But it does make things clearer.
And clarity has a way of softening a lot of what used to feel heavy.
Because this kind of understanding doesn’t really happen in isolation, I’ll also be opening up a monthly space to continue these conversations.
Not as a structured “lesson,” but as a place to sit with what we’re noticing in real life.
How your personal process actually shows up on a Tuesday afternoon.
How someone else’s way of doing things feels from the outside.
What shifts when you start seeing it differently.
Some of the most meaningful moments in this work don’t come from the concepts themselves…
they come from hearing how it’s playing out for someone else and realizing:
Oh… that’s what that is.
That’s where things start to land in a different way.
If you’ve ever found yourself trying to make sense of someone…
or even just trying to make sense of yourself…
this is simply an invitation to look again.
4/27/2026
You Can Heal Your Body With Your Thoughts
To be honest I have not yet listened to this myself. But with a guest like this and a title like that along with the video clip I saw of this episode I had to share. I can’t wait to tune in and I hope you are as excited as I am to learn more!
4/25/2026
The Stories We Tell Ourselves
There’s something different about the conversations at Coffee with Champions through the Troy Area Chamber of Commerce.
We don’t just network.
We actually get to know one another.
And this weeks topic was one you could feel.
The stories we tell ourselves.
What made it so powerful wasn’t just the stories themselves. It was what they were rooted in.
Comments from a 5th grade teacher.
Words from a parent.
Experiences with a partner.
Moments that may have seemed small at the time but somehow stayed.
And over the years, without even realizing it, we don’t just remember them…
We begin to believe them.
We hold onto them.
We buy into them.
What struck me most was recognizing that many of these stories didn’t actually start with us.
They were shaped by someone else’s story.
Their perspective.
Their experiences.
Their way of seeing the world.
Which means it doesn’t automatically make them true.
And yet, when we don’t pause to question it, those stories can take on a life of their own.
They influence how we see ourselves.
How we show up.
What we think we’re capable of or not.
This is something I talk about in my new book - feelings are not facts and opinions are not truths.
Not to dismiss what we feel or what others say, but to remind us to give ourselves context and perspective.
Because sometimes people are deliberately trying to shape a narrative and other times, we’re the ones allowing it to take hold.
When it comes down to it, we will always be made up of our experiences.
But we are not bound to them in the way we sometimes think.
We get to be the editor.
We get to be the narrator.
We get to decide what carries forward and what gets left behind.
There Must Be Something Wrong With You
4/22/2026
How many times do you let someone else cause you to believe there is something wrong with you just because you do things different than they do? I fell into this for many years. But once I learned my behavior language I now honor my personal process and know that different is not wrong. Learn more about this in my new book Your Behavior Language: Understanding the Way You Naturally Think, Act and Relate by Elle Hart found on Amazon or visit feelempoweredeveryday.com
4/22/2026
Is There Something Wrong With Me?
It is easy to slip into thinking there is something wrong when you expect yourself to do life in the same way other's do. But the fact is, we all have our own personal process. Learning what that looks like for you helps you realize being yourself is authentic, not wrong! Learn more in my new book Your Behavior Language: Understanding the Way You Naturally Think, Act and Relate by Elle Hart found on Amazon or visit feelempoweredeveryday.com
4/20/2026
Navigating My New Role as Mimi
There are moments in life that feel almost too big to hold.
Becoming a grandma is one of them.
My grandson, Jackson, was born on April 18th, and I don’t think there are words that fully capture what I felt when I heard the news… or what I feel now knowing he’s here.
Excitement. Love. Gratitude.
And if I’m being honest… a strong pull to be there immediately.
Before he was born, I told my son and daughter-in-law, who are in Denver, that I would come whenever they wanted.
That could have meant getting on a flight the day she went into labor…
or waiting until they had time to settle in, adjust, heal, and find their rhythm as a new family.
As it turns out, I’ll be meeting Jackson six weeks after his birth.
And while that hasn’t been the easiest part for me, it’s been a meaningful one.
Because this moment… isn’t about me.
It’s about them.
Their experience.
Their space.
Their timing.
There’s something that can happen so quickly in relationships, especially when love is involved.
We feel something deeply… and without even realizing it, we want others to respond in a way that matches what we’re feeling, particularly when our kids are involved.
To include us.
To need us.
To do things in a way that makes sense to us.
But when we lead with our needs, wants, and desires, no matter how well intentioned, they can start to press against someone else’s.
And that’s where disconnect quietly begins.
I’m learning that respect doesn’t always look like agreement or immediacy.
Sometimes it looks like patience.
Sometimes it looks like holding back.
Sometimes it looks like trusting that being invited in, rather than inserting yourself, creates a completely different kind of connection.
I’ve also been thinking about how this shows up in grandparenting as a whole.
There’s so much experience to draw from.
So much you could share.
And it often comes from a place of love.
But I’m starting to see the difference between offering information… and offering opinions.
One gives space.
The other can take it.
So for now, I wait.
I enjoy every picture and video.
I Facetime when Jackson calls his Mimi. I give advice lightly or when asked.
And I remind myself that when I do get there, I won’t just be stepping into a moment…I’ll be sharing in their life they are building together on their terms.
And that is something worth honoring.
Who Is Sadhguru?
4/16/2026
A conversation worth sitting with…
I recently listened to an episode of the PBD Podcast featuring Sadhguru, and it’s one of those conversations that stays with you a little longer.
What I appreciate most isn’t about agreeing or disagreeing.
It’s about being willing to hear a perspective that approaches life from a completely different angle.
He shares thoughts on how we experience life, how we interpret what’s happening around us, and where our sense of control actually comes from. Some of it may resonate, some of it may challenge you… and that’s exactly what makes it interesting.
I’ve found there’s value in exposing ourselves to a variety of viewpoints, especially the ones that stretch how we naturally think.
This is one of those.
Take what connects.
Notice what doesn’t.
And pay attention to what it brings up for you.
SIP (Self Intelligence Principle) Card of the Week
4/13/2026
There’s a phrase we hear all the time:
“They made me feel…”
And while it often feels true in the moment, it quietly hands over more power than we realize.
People absolutely treat us in certain ways.
They say things. They do things. They show up in ways that can feel thoughtful, dismissive, supportive, or frustrating.
But the feeling that follows?
That part doesn’t come pre-decided.
It moves through us.
This doesn’t mean brushing things off or pretending something didn’t matter.
It means noticing the space between what happened… and what happens inside of you next.
Because in that space, there’s more choice than it first appears.
Two people can experience the same comment and walk away with completely different feelings.
Not because one is right and one is wrong, but because each person filtered it through their own perspective, patterns, and meaning.
I’ve found that when something hits me hard, it’s usually pointing to something deeper:
an expectation I didn’t realize I had
a pattern I’ve seen before
a value that feels important to me
or even a story I’ve told myself about what something means
And when I slow it down instead of reacting quickly, I can start to separate:
What actually happened
from
What I’m making it mean
That’s where things begin to shift.
Not because the other person suddenly changes…but because I’m no longer automatically pulled into a feeling I didn’t choose.
Sometimes I still feel frustrated.
Sometimes I feel hurt.
But now it’s something I’m aware of… not something that just takes over.
People will continue to act in ways that don’t always make sense.
But the way you feel about it?
That’s something you get to understand…and over time, something you get to shape.
Sip to consider:
The next time something doesn’t sit right, pause before naming the feeling.
Ask yourself, “What part of this is theirs… and what part is mine?”
4/13/2026
Essential Oil of the Week
There’s a difference between being fearless… and choosing to move forward even when you’re not.
That’s what Brave reminds me of.
Not the big, bold, “look at me” kind of courage, but the quiet kind that shows up in everyday moments:
speaking up when it would be easier to stay quiet
trying something new without knowing how it will go
walking into a room and choosing to be yourself
Brave was created with little ones in mind, but I’ve found it speaks just as much to the adults who are still navigating their own moments of hesitation.
Because courage doesn’t come from having everything figured out.
It comes from taking the next step anyway.
I like to think of this blend as a gentle nudge rather than a push.
A reminder that you don’t need to override how you feel…you just need a little support as you move through it.
Applied to the wrists, back of the neck, or even just inhaled slowly, it creates a pause, a moment to reconnect before stepping forward.
The scent itself is warm and grounding with a subtle brightness to it.
It doesn’t overwhelm.
It steadies.
And sometimes that’s exactly what courage needs, not intensity, but reassurance.
Is Your “Life for Rent”
4/10/2026
What do you listen to while driving? If it’s a long road trip I am all about a podcast but when just bopping around town or going to and from work I enjoy a variety of music. I put my library on shuffle and listen to whatever shows up.
The other day a song I have been listening to for decades came on and as I was singing along something profound happened. It was like I was hearing the lyrics for the first time. Has this ever happened to you?
And as the chorus played, I couldn’t help but see it through the lens of what I have experienced and now help others with every day.
“If my life is for rent…”
It made me think about how often we live in a way that feels borrowed.
Following expectations, adapting to others, adjusting ourselves to fit what’s around us.
Simply because we haven’t fully claimed how we naturally operate.
This is what I see all the time, people living in their lives, but not fully owning them.
“…and I don’t learn to buy”
There’s a difference between existing in your life and actually investing in it.
Buying your life, in this sense, is understanding your personal process,
how you think, how you move through decisions, how you relate to people.
Not trying to become someone else but finally recognizing what’s already there and learning how to use it.
“Well I deserve nothing more than I get”
This one feels harsh at first, but it’s honest.
If we don’t take the time to understand ourselves, we end up repeating patterns that don’t feel good and then wondering why things aren’t changing.
Not as blame but as awareness.
Because once you see it, you can work with it.
“’Cause nothing I have is truly mine”
This is the part that stayed with me the longest.
When you don’t understand your own behavior language, it’s easy to question yourself… second-guess decisions…or feel disconnected from your own choices.
But when things start to make sense, when you can see why you do what you do, there’s a shift.
Your reactions feel familiar.
Your decisions feel grounded.
Your relationships feel less confusing.
And suddenly your life starts to feel like it actually belongs to you.
What struck me most wasn’t just the words, but how closely they mirror what I see every day.
People aren’t looking to become someone new. They’re trying to feel more at home in who they already are.
And when behavior starts to make sense, that’s when everything begins to feel a little lighter.
It made me wonder…
Where in your life does it feel like you’re just renting…
and where are you starting to take ownership?
4/6/2026
SIP (Self Intelligence Principle) Card of the Week
See the patterns others miss, and use them to forge the smartest path ahead.
I remember when I first took the CliftonStrengths assessment back in 2019.
I had just moved to California.
New place, new life… figuring everything out on my own.
And Strategic showed up in my natural personal process.
At the time, it made perfect sense.
I wasn’t looking to follow a set path. I couldn’t even if I wanted.
There wasn’t one laid out for me anymore.
So I naturally started looking for other ways.
Different angles.
Alternative routes.
I was constantly asking: What’s the smartest way forward from here?
Not the expected way.
Not the traditional way.
Just the way that made the most sense for me.
What I didn’t realize then was how much that way of thinking was shaping everything.
It’s what helped me build something from scratch.
It’s what allowed me to step outside of “how things are usually done” and begin creating what would become Feel Empowered Every Day.
Years later, when I retook the assessment, something shifted.
Strategic was no longer in my top 10.
It had been replaced with Ideation.
And instead of feeling like something was missing, it felt like something had opened.
Because the foundation had already been built.
I wasn’t trying to figure out my path anymore.
I had created one.
So now, instead of using that pattern-seeing energy to navigate uncertainty, it started showing up as creativity.
More freedom.
More possibility.
More space to imagine what could be, instead of just determining what should be.
And that’s what I love about this card.
Strategic isn’t just about planning.
It’s about perspective.
It’s about seeing what others might overlook, not because you’re trying to be different, but because that’s just how your mind works.
And depending on where you are in life, that can show up as finding your way or expanding it.
It makes me think about how our strengths don’t disappear, they just express themselves differently depending on what we need.
Sometimes we’re using them to build the path.
Sometimes we’re using them to explore beyond it.
Where do you notice yourself naturally looking for another way even when no one else is?
4/6/2026
Essential Oil of the Week
This one feels extra special to share.
In honor of my grandson who will be arriving sometime this month, I wanted to feature the line of blends created by doTERRA specifically with little ones in mind.
Because essential oils are powerful.
And when it comes to babies and young children, gentleness matters.
These blends are thoughtfully pre-diluted to help protect sensitive skin and support their systems in a way that feels safe, simple, and soothing.
Calmer is exactly what it sounds like.
A soft, grounding blend designed to create a peaceful environment especially during those moments that can feel a little overwhelming or unsettled.
Think bedtime routines…wind-down moments…or simply creating a sense of calm in the space around them. Just apply a quick swipe to the bottom of the feet.
What I love about this blend isn’t just how it’s made, but the intention behind it.
It’s not about “fixing” anything.
It’s about supporting.
Creating an environment where little ones can relax, feel safe, and ease into rest in their own natural way.
And maybe that’s something we all could use.
We don’t always need more doing.
Sometimes it’s about creating the conditions that allow calm to happen.
This one feels like a gentle welcome. 🤍
How My Personal Process Shaped My Book Writing Process
4/5/2026
I’ve been paying attention to how naturally our personal process shows up when we’re in the middle of creating something.
Writing this book was a clear example of mine.
I had been working on a version for quite a while, but I kept having to make myself go back to it, which never works well for me given my lowDiscipline.
That’s usually my first clue.
When I have to force something, it’s not how I’m wired to work.
I care deeply about what I share and what I stand for, my Belief keeps that steady, but the way it comes together tends to move with my Adaptability, not through structure or pressure.
So instead of pushing through, I let it go.
And almost immediately, something else surfaced.
I came across a previous document I had created and my Ideation lit up with that instant feeling of this is it.
Not just because it was a new idea, but because my Individualization could see how it reflected the way I uniquely understand people and how I naturally communicate about behavior.
Once that clicked, my Activator took over.
I jumped in, followed the energy, and got it out into the world within a few days, trusting through my Connectedness that it would go where it was meant to go.
That pace felt completely natural to me.
But then the proof copy arrived and I read it through a new lens.
My Woo started thinking about how it would land, would people enjoy it, would it draw them in, while my Empathy stepped in to consider how it would actually feel to read it and whether it would feel worth their time and money.
So I went back in and started refining.
And then refining again.
And then… again.
At some point, my lowDeliberative showed up and instead of thoughtfully editing, I slipped into overthinking.
I started questioning everything and, with my low Competition, comparing myself to other authors in a way that didn’t serve me.
Even my Maximizer, which normally helps me elevate something strong into something better, started pushing me past improvement and into being overly critical.
That’s when I had to pause. Not to fix the book, but to come back to myself.
Talking it through using my Communication helped me process it out loud and find my way back to center, which is something I’ve learned I need when I get stuck in my head.
And in that space, I was reminded of something I already know:
There isn’t one right way to do something like this.
There’s just the way that works for you.
For me, that looks like letting my Belief ground the message, my Adaptability guide the process, my Ideation spark the direction, my Activator move it forward, my Empathy and Woo shape how it lands, and my Maximizer know when to elevate, but not overwork, what’s already good.
That’s my process.
And now the book is out in the world, available on Amazon.
Not perfect.
Not forced.
But aligned, honest, and fully reflective of how I naturally work.
And that is exactly what it’s about.
Honoring yourself no matter what you are doing.
4/2/2026
Anxiety or Behavior Language
Listen in as I explore a Personal Process example based on a post I read this morning regarding a wife complaining about her husband and how she deals with him frustrating her. All leading to unnecessary disconnect when he is just going about life in a way that is natural for him. * I forgot to mention the Restorative strength at play as well. High for him, obviously lower for her. When we are too busy expecting people to show up the same way we do, relationships will suffer. It's simply a matter of replacing expectations with respectations so resentments don't lead to "gray rocking."
Understanding one another’s behavior language will help mitigate conflict and encourage honoring one another even when disagreeing.
4/1/2026
Unleash Your Strengths
April’s book of the month pays homage to the mentor I learned a new way of looking at how Strengths show up in our lives. It was March 2020. I was attending the doTERRA Leadership Conference online when a tall, boisterous man came on stage. I thought it was going to be another, I built my business this way and so can you talk. Boy, I was wrong. I had no idea sitting in that moment that my life was about to change, not just personally but professionally as well.
doTERRA had been promoting the CliftonStrengths a couple years prior, which happened to be right when I divorced and moved to California on my own. Living by myself and experiencing life for the first time on my own, I was thirsty for information that would help me understand myself better especially after being a stay-at-home mom for the past 25 years.
So I took the assessment. Got the results. Found them interesting and that’s about it. I honestly had forgotten about them. That was until Eddie Villa hit the stage of the conference I was watching. The energy he brought was captivating but the way he described the Strengths brought them to life for me. I grabbed my results. Listened intently and began my obsession.
Lucky for me, he was posting all kinds of information on facebook breaking down report after report in a way that was more and more understandable. I all but stalked every bit of content he put out, taking copious notes along the way. Watching. Rewatching. And watching again until I not only had a better understanding of my own Strengths but was grasping how to look at and make sense of other people’s as well.
It just so happened to be at the exact time I was studying to become an Emotional Intelligence practitioner with the intention of using the information for once again my own personal growth, but also to help the middle schoolers I was working with at the time.
It didn’t take long for me to marry the two together and develop the self intelligence concept I teach today.
This book is representative of Eddie’s teachings so if you are fascinated in learning more, a Clarity Consultation with me will give you the experience what I learned from the way he presents Strengths, but this book shows you how he began to decipher them the way he teaches.
In honor of Eddie’s teachings, I will be spending this whole month focusing on the various Strengths, how they show up in real life and what they mean beyond the definitions.